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Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

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Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

For our final online event of the year @Former-Member as well as the LE and Carer communities, will be discussing one of the most common challenges throughout the holiday period!

Expectations

We will be strategising some different approaches to this time of year including realistic expectation setting, maintaining perspective and executing on self-care.
Look forwarding to seeing you all there

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In response to: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

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Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

I think setting our own traditions and not feeling guilty about them.

I fully intend to start Christmas day having some Quality Streets starting with the toffees (yellow wrapping).

After that ... who knows.

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cutiepiekittySenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

I would like it if in EVERY town, not just the cities, there were functions that people could go to so they have people around them. I am sure that a lot of big companies would be able to donate things, and people attending could share the load of being together and preparing the meal. And some businesses etc could donate some items to be given as presents, with them being put somewhere and people being able to choose something. That way everyone could have company with no expectations and all would be able to feel valued. To me, feeling that I am of some value and accepted are very important

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Sophie1Senior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Holidays are the only time I'm not bound to go to the office and work 8-10 hrs a day, 5 days a week ... they then become for me a rare opportunity of 3 or more days in a row do to something or be with someone or people whom I value ... the older I get (in my mid forties now) the more I realise how lucky I am to have many family members I cherish - however I also have been thinking is spending time with my family and my partners family all there is to do in my spare non working weeks each year ?? Is there something else I'd like to spend time doing ?

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Unknown userMember

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Not buying presents for the sake of it ...

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Unknown userMember

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Nice one @cutiepiekitty sounds like you would be a good mental health advocate! Is this something you potentially propose/pitch to your local council? Love this idea. I know a lot of church's do this sort of thing but I think it would be really incredible if it were at a community level for people of all (or no) faith to attend. This sounds like a great ideal!

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

@Former-Member

time to relax

christmas here will be a lot quieter this year

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Unknown userMember

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Toffees sound good @Former-Member This is your own tailored tradition? Gosh that's a good one!

For @Former-Member (yep I am talking in third person ha!) it would be a BBQ on the balcony with my dog and a couple of close friends, maybe some swims at the beach! 🌊

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cutiepiekittySenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Unfortunately the local councel are as stubborn and annpying as the cat between me an dmy computer at the moment! They are only interested in themselves and ehat they can get from things.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

yes @Former-Member , @Former-Member

family says , no presents -- and i got one today

no pressure aaa

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AdgeSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

That would look like - simply having meaningful connections (relationships) with people.

To be able to spend time with them @Former-Member

That means options & choices (re: people to be with) that I have not had in a long time.

I am not isolated by choice, I'm actually highly social (although sometimes shy).

My friendships all went bung (they all cut me off) at exactly the same time as my marriage ended.

Whammy after whammy.

Lost confidence.

I do make repeated efforts to connect & network, from time to time - in fact a lot, over time.

Yet nothing has come or developed, to replace those lost connections (past friendships) & relationships.

Adge

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