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Checking In: Let us know how you're doing

CherryBombSenior Contributor08 June 2016, 3:29 pm AEST

Checking In: Let us know how you're doing

Long time, no see! How you doing?

@GivingMick @Itwillbeok @mountain @Daisy @Harry @BananaHammock @Annabelle @BeHappy @coffeegirl @artee

It's been a while since we touched base. I'd love to know how you're doing.

It's great that the forums can be a place to turn when the going gets tough. Though I often wonder how many of you doing after (or still doing during) the diffcult time.

The role of a carer never stops. It is often a long journey of ups and downs, and ruing this journey. Sometimes it can be helpful to share an update about how you're doing what you're going through be it good or bad. Let us know where you're at.

Perhaps there are others who you also wonder about? '@' mention them here to get their attention to get updates about each other.

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CherryBombSenior Contributor18 Nov 2016, 6:53 pm AEDT

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Oh gosh @Shaz51 that sounds horrible - hope you're feeling better.

What are your thoughts about hubby giving up work - good or bad (or both)?

Just about to get dinner out of the oven, see you at Friday Feast soon?

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Shaz51Senior Contributor18 Nov 2016, 6:58 pm AEDT

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Yes thank you @CherryBomb, after the second course of AB xx

well I told him we can get rid of the hard jobs and keep the easier jobs , we will have lower income but we will be ok

Like hime to have a checkup why he is soo buggered and tired all the time -- he is saying it is just the meds that is doing it

See you at Friday Feast soon? xx

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Bluebird15Senior Contributor10 Dec 2016, 10:10 am AEDT

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Hi @NikNik,
Thank you so much for checking up on us.
Sorry for the late reply. Life has been, well- hectic lately.
We had a few good months with my brother's illness however, we find he's not doing so well again and it's so very disappointing.😞😞
We had such high hopes after a ghastly few months.
His psych has kept him on the same dose of meds so I don't know what's going on.
Aspects of the co-dependency certainly relate to me. Just finding myself tense and down when I find out my brother is, then almost elated when he's communicative and 'ok'. Most weeks are like this... It's tiring and taking a toll on my own family.
Anyway- that was very kind of you to recommend that book- I have just ordered it!

I hope you are well.
Thanks once again,
BB x

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NikNikSenior Contributor12 Dec 2016, 9:48 am AEDT

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Hi @BlueBird

No worries!
It is really hard when high hopes are dashed. In saying that though - things can change quickly for the better, now just for the worse, which probably doesn't bring much peace of mind, but from what I have learnt from other members here is to just manage the moment. Celebrate and relax when a loved one is doing better, and manage the tricky times when they arise.

Thinking too far ahead can just raise anxieties - which isn't helpful, particularly when you can't do anything much about it.

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Bluebird15Senior Contributor23 Dec 2016, 10:21 pm AEDT

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Thank you again @NikNik
That's good advice. And you're right, I need to try and relinquish some control - something I don't have in the first place!
Things have been up and down so frequently of late. I'm trying to learn how to 'compartmentalise.
It will take time but I'm working on it.
🙂

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Shaz51Senior Contributor23 Dec 2016, 10:25 pm AEDT

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Hello @Bluebird15

how hve you been @Bluebird15

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Bluebird15Senior Contributor23 Dec 2016, 10:49 pm AEDT

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Oh thank you @Shaz51,
Not too bad of late, although my brother's depression has sent us all on an emotion roller coaster. I'm am so, so grateful for the good days and just the fact that there ARE good days at least but still so many low days as well 😞
I've been told to lower my expectations of his mood, as in I should try not to pin all my high hopes on how his behaviour will be say on a family get together or meet up or Christmas.
Then if he is low and holed up in his room - perhaps it won't hurt so much ...?
Anyway - I'm rambling !
Thanks for checking up on me!
BB

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Shaz51Senior Contributor08 Jan 2017, 4:47 pm AEDT

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Hi @Leigh,

sending you tender hugs

Very sorry for your loss.

I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through and my heart goes out to youmy friend

and remeber we are all here for you , if you need to have a talk xx

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NikNikSenior Contributor06 Mar 2017, 10:59 am AEDT

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Hi everyone,

I thought I would reinvigorate this thread.

The purpose of this thread is to check in with each other to see how people are travelling - good, bad and in between.

Today I want give a shout out to @Feelinglost @Bandit1 @Simma @Reacher who have all shared stories of their sons.

We want you to know that this community is here whenever you need it, whether it be to vent, ask advice, or just be around those who understand.

We hope you're travelling well and hope we 'see' you around the Forums again soon.

Nik

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Bluebird15Senior Contributor22 Mar 2017, 6:30 pm AEDT

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Hi @nik,
How nice of you to check up.
Thank you for this..
Things with my brother have been 'in between' I guess.
We caught up with the family about a week and a half ago. Started off quite well, but he started to feel pain in his bad back and hip and it went down hill from there. Pretty non communicative for rest of the day which was pretty disappointing- however - still have to remind myself that prior to that happening- we'd had a good morning and phone convo the night before.
Unfortunately, though, we seem to be going through a phase of less phone contact - actually very little contact at all. This is despite my efforts to try and call him from time to time.
I will get the odd message or funny screen shot every now and then, so I cling to them as a sort of reassurance he is doing 'ok' for that day..and it seems to be a day by day thing . Still coming to terms with this change..

Anyway,
I hope the rest of the community is doing ok too.
Sending warmest wish to you all. It's so nice to know you're here.
Thanks @nik
BB

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