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Evenings alone and the best ways to self-care

Melanie-catSenior Contributor06 Oct 2019, 11:08 pm AEDT

Evenings alone and the best ways to self-care

Hey there,

So... evenings and night times can be tough especially if we don't have a lover to snuggle up to. It seems to be when emotions are very strong and powerful, and work stress makes me want to turn myself inside out. It's hard to avoid using food and the internet to settle and distract my mind. Just wondering if anyone might like to share their ideas for what helps them to be calm and serene at times like this? For me the best thing is listening to meditation stuff, but I seem to resist that. Maybe something else has to happen first to even get me into a good enough state to be ABLE to sit quietly and listen. Anyway looking forward to some conversation on this topic.

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ScarecroweSenior Contributor16 Oct 2019, 6:07 pm AEDT

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That is exactly right @Shaz51 think of now...........................

Well I have been doing odd jobs around the house everyday for about an hour or two and then I either read, play computer games, watch dvd's, doze on the couch and doing my excercises. So basically not a real lot lol!!!! Enjoying it and don't want it to end........

Yes enjoy the slack moments Mr Shaz!!!!!

We need that rain though all over the country......................just can't believe how dry our country is...................it is very scary............maybe we all need to get out and do a rain dance.......................

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Shaz51Senior Contributor16 Oct 2019, 6:19 pm AEDT

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Enjoying it and don't want it to end....-- yes mr shaz does not want to end either @Scarecrowe

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ScarecroweSenior Contributor16 Oct 2019, 6:55 pm AEDT

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Lol @Shaz51

Loving your work Mr Shaz!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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GwynnSenior Contributor02 Nov 2019, 9:44 am AEDT

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Sometimes it's about changing your clothes: like, hanging up your work uniform and having a shower and changing into some civilian clothes. I like to knit in the evenings, do you do anything creative?

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Denv12Senior Contributor02 Nov 2019, 6:35 pm AEDT

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Hi @Melanie-cat .

You could try this.Dream something like this.Think about you being in a relationship with someone who is your perfect match and you being their perfect match.What do they look like? What qualities do they have? What makes them special to you? Think of all the things that make you and them so compatible for each other.Its your imagination,its your story.You be the author of your dreams.What do you want in your story? Let it captivate your heart.Is there a book going somewhere to happen? There's your story.

Regards Denv12.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor02 Nov 2019, 6:38 pm AEDT

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Hello and hugs @Gwynn @Melanie-cat , @Denv12 , @Scarecrowe , @Gazza75

How is everyone today xx

Been catching up with some work , we are self employed and do things for my elderly mum

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ScarecroweSenior Contributor02 Nov 2019, 6:53 pm AEDT

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Evening @Shaz51

I am well thanks....recovering from a huge week at work (was like xmas week) and resting for another huge week next week (as xmas stock arrives). A long weekend here so bonus!!!!

Hope you caught up on your work load.....and hello to Mr Shaz as well.......

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Shaz51Senior Contributor02 Nov 2019, 7:07 pm AEDT

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no , have not caught up on your work load....yet @Scarecrowe , but getting there

A long weekend here so bonus!!!!--- ohh wow @Scarecrowe , enjoy my friend xxx

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ScarecroweSenior Contributor02 Nov 2019, 7:10 pm AEDT

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Well I hope you have not too much work to catch up on @Shaz51

Yes I fully intend to enjoy three days off!!!!!!!

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Shaz51Senior Contributor02 Nov 2019, 7:28 pm AEDT

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not too much @Scarecrowe

tomorrow will be food shopping for my mum and us

and then the rest of the day relaxing xx

how about you

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