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When caring for parents

Shaz51Senior Contributor25 Sept 2019, 3:58 pm AEST

When caring for parents

Continuing from out topic tuesday last night we are talking about caring for parents with mental health challenges, and some of the experiences that arise when the roles are flipped; especially as an adult child of someone with a complex mental health diagnosis.

@Crimnerd @Razzle @Determined @Adge @Sally , @Former-Member , @CheerBear , @eth

@Tru3man @Star321 @Ledy

@ElsaDawn , @Former-Member @Nong1990.

going from last night

It’s not always easy to feel positive about the person you care for and at times we may even feel frustrated. Off the back of this we can occasionally be faced with feelings of guilt, even though there may not be any need for it.

our next question is

What are some helpful ways someone could reframe guilt and be gentler with themselves in the process?

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Unknown userMember07 Jan 2020, 12:16 pm AEDT

Re: When caring for parents

What is happening with Mum at the moment @iCare ?

My sister has been the primary carer for my mum and is not coping too well (I live a distance away) and dear old mum is getting in more of a mess. She has piles of things everywhere. As there was opportunity, I did offer to go to mum's place and help sort out her sewing table so she actually has room to do a little bit of sewing but mum declined. I said to mum I would make myself available if and when she would like any help with this. Ordinarily I would be more than happy to visit her socially, but the offer of transport I had would mean I would be stuck at Mums without transport and I know I would be itching to start tidying up which would only stress us both out. I would be more than happy to visit her for social purposes but it would not be appropriate for me to do so at present in relation to other work and home demands.

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