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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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That sounds awesome with all the music and cultural events, @eth. Such great memories to have. How many times have you been to that festival? I seem to remember you going to it when you were up north at least one time before. Or maybe that was a different festival. Glad you were able to minimise trouble with your mum, while seeing her plenty (despite her protests, which do sound a bit unreasonable give the duration of your trip).

Hi @Faith-and-Hope, how are you today?

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@eth @Mazarita

The Rake series are on netflix....is brilliant as goes back to series one episode one...so we are watching back from the beginning...

There is another british programme about an older couple in Halifax West Yorkshire....which is so entertaining...if you think that your relatives are dysfunctional...you should watch this...parts are sad but mostly side splitting for me...

when I was in the UK ...I bought a small wooden plaque from one of the local town businesses...."Remember as far as everyone knows we are a nice NORMAL FAMILY"...I just look at it every day...have it hanging with my keys....very reassuring and makes me smile..

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@Mazarita

That is an excellent approach....so vital to have that feeling of a strong...trusting connection with your psychiatrist...

Mine is very similar...in fact lets me run the show so to speak...I have been seeing him for about the same time....

We are in different states so can't be the same one laugh...

Symptoms cannot be predicted...most carry exactly the same warnings...everyone has a different metabolism and sensitivity..your other condition would also determine your symptoms too I imagine...

Sounds as though it is all coming together in the way that you feel confident about...which at the end of the day is how it should be...

will keep an eye out for your progress...if I remember...foggy head...

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B2M : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ndinCZ6FJAI&list=PLZEY2AFvtuxefofaZw9rp-y0W3B561rlU

Yirrmal : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ndinCZ6FJAI&list=PLZEY2AFvtuxefofaZw9rp-y0W3B561rlU

and : https://://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ndinCZ6FJAI&list=PLZEY2AFvtuxefofaZw9rp-y0W3B561rlUhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=afQcYH2nwoM

Caiti Baker : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pxl6GoZ1hXs

@Mazarita @Sophia1 @Faith-and-Hope @Bunniekins @outlander @Appleblossom @CheerBear @Zoe7@The-red-centaur

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@Sophia1 I read all the posts you tag me in - sorry that you feel I'd stop reading part way through. I appreciate your thoughtfulness and empathy and also follow your recovery progress.

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Somewhere in the back of my mind I know Inam really tired @Mazarita ..... but I am feeling okay, thanks for asking 😊

We are in a relative lull @eth. A lot has happened for us while you were away, at the level of our son stabilising somewhat with phenomenal support from the uni, daughter considering going back to study (part-time, or maybe a single unit) with improvements in her health, and she also embraced the search for a new psych when hers announced she was leaving .....

Mr.F&H has had a breakthrough in his understanding about mental health ..... which I am still gobsmacked about because the discussing came out if

the blue ..... but it’s exciting in that it might roll forward into some insight, and maybe .... maybe ..... recognising that he would benefit from talking to someone ......

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@eth, thanks for the links. May come back to them. Not in a video watching state of mind just now.

@Sophia1, I don't take any meds at all now for my Crohns disease. I was told I was in remission some time ago but was always have big problems with pain and trouble anyway. But over the past couple of months it really has improved to the point where I actually feel like I'm in remission for the first time in decades, maybe the first time ever really. Not completely symptom free, but with far less pain and trouble and much more managable.

The psych med I've been transitioning to so slowly over the past couple of months has, I believe, stabilised. However I have noticed it's not as good at managing my tendency to 'rapid cycle', particularly in relation to sleep patterns. It is better for managing depressed moods though, and I am feeling that, which is great.

@Faith-and-Hope, it's great to hear some good news with your family. It must bring such feelings of relief and optimism in you.

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@eth

That sounds magical....what a festival..

a minute silence out of respect for Dr G Yunupingu...dancing and singling by family members...so spiritual out in the heart of their land....

I saw a programme on SBS ....I meant to ask @Appleblossom about it...a choir of indigenous women who came together under the american conductor...they sang original german songs...travelled over as a group to the german town...who greeted them with open arms...a special ceremony where they sang and then sang with the german people....the conductor's wife was a landscape artist....a very moving story...my mind does not retain names these days...

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I read all your posts through too @Sophia1 ..... although sometimes I put them off for a while until I have got a proper stretch of time to give them my full attention. I would rather do that that skim read or part-read because I value what you write ....

Hugs 🤗💕

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