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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Subvert the dominant paradigm I say @Mazarita!!!

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Haha, I dig how we are both so able to turn the issue of sleep into a political issue, @eth.

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!!! @Mazarita

I just tried to put the music I'm listening to into itunes for the first time - unsuccessfully! I managed to convert it to MP3 and download it but I'm buggered if I know how to get it into iTunes. This is typical of me. Most new tasks on the computer I need the lesson repeatedly. My bro finds it frustrating I think, but he also usually explains to fast for me to follow coz it's so basic to him.

One of the things the MH OT recommended for me is a one-off cognitive assessment. Don't know if I've a problem there. I just think I'm old school!

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I think it's only partly you with the tech issue, @eth. Last time I used it, iTunes was using a different format to .mp3 (.aac?) I've heard a number of people complaining about issues with conversion into iTunes. I found it impossible to negotiate too.

Interesting with the cognitive assessment. I feel I have some cognitive damage from my years of extreme depression. It presents itself as an inability to multi-task anymore in the real world (am ace with it on the computer, but that's really just one activity). Also my memory is full of holes now, compared to how razer sharp it was when I was younger.

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I echo your 2nd para @Mazarita. Also, big question for me, is the possibility (suggested by some family members) that when I attempted S in 1998 and actually died and was brought back medically, that I was left with residual brain damage. That's a doozy. With that question combined with the way I function as per your last para, I really struggle to have confidence in my brain. And this is coming from one who got HDs at uni in the sciences.

Mum says that before then I could do at least 3 things at once and since then I'm pushing it to attempt 2. My answer to that is that in order to practice mindfulness, one should do 1 thing at a time and be truly present with it, in the now and losing a sense of time. I'm not quite there yet but it is a goal of mine.

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@eth, I also learn things much more slowly than every before. I read an article online about how, especially with the extreme episodes of bipolar, they can in fact cause cognitive damage. It's an issue for us as we age too. I think that's why you and I are on the right track with keeping our lives as managable and low on stress as possible. Stress is a known trigger for bipolar episodes. I too was an A student when I studied all those years ago.

I agree with mindfulness. But I find the idea of trying to be in that timeless zone all the time an impossibly perfect ideal. For me, mindfulness comes and goes throughout the day. And, for a basic human being, I think that's fairly natural. All these years of practicing meditation and mindfulness in an ad hoc way mean I am certainly a lot less tormented than I was when I was younger (but that is also down to medications to a good extent too).

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I totally agree with all you just said @Mazarita. I have huge chunks of memory loss during episodes I now know with 20:20 hindsight that I was in psychosis combined with flight states of cPTSD. I think of it as having a jigsaw in pieces in a bag and not knowing if I even have all the pieces, let alone know how to put them together. But these days I am reconciled with understanding that there are some things one will never know and that's ok. Since being here my bro has filled in a few of the gaps, and the knowledge has been quite shocking at times. e.g. how long I was in hospital after the S attempt and things I did after I was released. Full On!!! So maybe it doesn't even really help to regain some of the lost pieces of the puzzle.

Gosh we're getting deep here!!

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be right back @Mazarita. bathroom is in the big house

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@eth, I really resonate when you say... "But these days I am reconciled with understanding that there are some things one will never know and that's ok." I think this kind of understanding has been incredibly helpful and only something I have found with getting older. Earlier in my life I think I was a lot more grasping of what I thought might be 'truth'. And yes, I think it is sometimes better not to remember some things, especially if they are going to bring again with them a lot of darkness to our present lives.

We often get deep, it seems to me!

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I feel a sympatico with you @Mazarita. I'm not involved with the forums much at all other than our yarns lately. We discuss the real stuff and don't just skim the surface. I found I was getting too involved with some people's stuff and not meeting my own needs for a few weeks there. And even tho' I said to you how it's good you can support your friend, I think it's easy to get spread too thin supporting too many at the same time here on the forums. Dawn is yawning and I'm going to pop out for a ciggie now and listen to the birds. If you're still here when I get back we can continue.

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