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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@eth, clean now, dressed, groomed, bed made. 🙂

I would not be doing this if you weren't there talkin me through it.

Ready to go to shop now. Will do that after I've posted this one. Shop is about 500 metres from home, so won't take too long. Yay for you getting things done too. 🙂

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You're keeping me motivated too @Mazarita xx

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good morning @eth, @Mazarita,

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Hi @Shaz51 how are you going this morning? How did your dinner with your Mum turn out?

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Dinner was lovely thanks @eth

today we are having lunch with my MIL and family today

How are you xx

I am having trouble tagging other people to say hello , only to the names which are dislayed like @outlander, @Appleblossom, @utopia, can not tag @niknik

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I'm doing well today @Shaz51 Have put away my clothes washing and changed my bed linen and done the first load of washing it too. I have a list of chores I am aiming to get done today. I know I'll feel a lot more positive if I get them all done. Next up is washing dishes. It's raining gently now so I won't have to water the gardens.

Hope you have a good time with your family gathering today.

I'll try to tag @NikNik for you. It seems to have worked. Are you ok? Is there a problem I can help with?

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I am ok @eth, just wanting to say hello to everyone and I can not tag people, their names won`t come up

have a good day my friend xx

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Back from walking to the corner shop for milk and a couple of other things. I bought 4 litres so I don't have to go every day. I drink a lot of milk. It is comfort food to me.

@Shaz51, hi! Great that your dinner with Mum went well. I want to ring my mum after I've posted this. She is a late riser. Didn't want to wake her too early.

@eth, woohoo on getting things done. I've also now thrown out some old food in the fridge and taken out the little hill of rubbish and recycling I had accumulated. The bins are in the basement so a bit more exercise down and up the stairs. C usually does that job. Bless him. Also saw that C's car was still where he left it. Next, if I can muster more energy, will be unpacking and repacking the dishwasher, and giving the kitchen a tidy. Washing is very overdue. I'd give myself an inner hug if I got that done too. 🙂

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Looks like notifications aren't working reliably @Mazarita @Shaz51.

Typical me doing my linen washing on a day when it's raining on and off. Oh well extra rinses won't hurt. Good on you for making it out to the shop Maz. Hope you have a nice chat with your Mum.

I spoke with mine at length last night. Today she is busy all morning taking an elderly disabled man to church and then taking herself to a ballet film this afternoon. We sent her a Myers gift card as we thought it was a good way to get her to buy clothes for herself (she is Franciscan and hardly keeps anything of quality for herself). She says she's found out she can spend it at other stores and will buy grog for a lunch for refugees she is hosting soon. Talk about inappropriate! Oh well you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it .... wait ......she will be drinking ....... bah humbug!

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Going to wash dishes now. BRB

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