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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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💜💐 @Sophia1 .....

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@Sophia1 Thinking of you Sophia1 xxx

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@Sophia1@Mazarita@Faith-and-Hope@eth@Appleblossom @Zoe7@Shaz51 @Former-Memberand everyone . Hi everyone I just wanted to say that soon the pea will go offline at times until she wont come on at all. Not because anything is bad just because everything is going well for the pea. I didnt want to disappear and not say goodbye and wish you all the best in the world. I have really enjoyed the forums and talking with you all.

I will be around for awhile yet just might not be seen as much. Take care all of you. @eth good luck with the NDIS I might pop back in and have a read and say hi regardless I will be thinking of you and everyone.

greenpea

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Thank you for letting us know @Bunniekins, so glad things are going so nicely for you!

I have enjoyed our chats immensely and you have been a wonderful help to me in both my good and bad moments.

Keep knitting and doing all the things you enjoy!

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Its great to hear your going well @Bunniekins and thanks for letting us know too. I wish you well too

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I am so glad that things are going well at the moment @Bunniekins It makes a difference to know you will be alright. Will miss your chirrupy bouyant personality ... and the frocks!

@eth Thank you for saying that about my daughter. It is just something that is best left where it is. I need a few conversations with my son about it in counselling, but her strength and cerebral aspect, is similar to me. She has proven herself in work and study. She kept blocking and running for so long. It was making things worse all the way round. She was a shocker with my son, but then the other girl was a shocker with her. I was being forgiving but not able to de-escalate her intensity. The counsellors are getting the situation regarding how much my hands have been tied. As other things have surprised me and nourished me in a positive way I have learned to live with it. The loss of so many relationships looks bad on the surface. There were so many things happening by people much bigger than I, it is not a real reflection of who I am. It just does not add up. I take it as a sign of where I have been in the general pecking order and on the margins. I also may have died if I had to endure or absorb too much of her teenage boisterous anger and that would have been the worst result for her and my son. SO she works her butt off and already owns fancy real estate. My physical health is much better than when she was growing up.

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I think it’s fabulous news @Bunniekins. Well done you! 😘💜

you know even if you are doing well it would still be awesome to see you around. Often seeing people who are doing better helps lift me and helps to see the light a bit brighter. Even if you wanted to do a wellness thread I’d love to have updates and see what you are up to. You’ve been a bit of a bright shining star for me lately and it’s helped heaps to have your posts around the place even if I’m bad at responding I enjoy your posts and positivity.

Its ok if you have to go too, it’s whatever works for you. I just wanted to let you know that I think there is a place here for wellness too. I send you the very best wishes for your future (and please tag me if you do come on) I may not always reply (a headspace I’m trying to change) but I’ll very much appreciate any updates. 💜🤗

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Its great to hear your going well @Bunniekins and thanks for letting us know too. I wish you well too

and pop in on a friday feast night and say hello xoxoxoxo

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Looking forward to any future messages from you, @Bunniekins, even if there are less. Even if you do leave in the end, I wish you the best. Good to see you feeling well. There will always be a special place in the forum for you. Love, Maz

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Hello precious @Bunniekins

lovely to hear that your life is treating you well......despite floorboard replacement and snoring..

your humour has been a breath of fresh air........your positive attitude uplifting..

hope to read some more from you before you finally leave........

you must do what is best for Greenpea..

you truly will be missed..

thank you for all of your support...

ciao for now then xxx💚💤🙃:money_mouth_face:

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