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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@Appleblossom

the beach...taking off your shoes and doing nothing else...

sounds perfect to me....taking in the smells...sounds...textures...sights...

never mind about those who come across as snooty...often they are trying so hard to avoid being in touch with their own emotions...

why sacrifice something as precious as classical music....a safe haven for me at times...close my eyes and listen..

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@Silenus @Mazarita @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @Bunniekins

I have not heard of this magic potion...shall write down the name and hopefully not lose the place where I have written it ....

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@Sophia1, I'm hoping hard that you get to take your walk on the beach before Monday. Tomorrow's get together sounds like it will be good for all of you too.

@Appleblossom, how fortunate to be able to run. I realised recently that my running days are over. My arthritic feet just can't take it. Last time I did that, just before going away, I ended up having to call the night doctor and had my foot bandaged up for a few days, lol! But walking on the beach is good consolation for the loss of my barefoot contessa. I'd encourage your barefoot running more on the soft grass though!

@Silenus, lol to brushing your teeth with fisiocrem. I remember reading about your hypermobile joints. I think that's partly what @Faith-and-Hope uses it for too. So good to find an all natural remedy that is so effective.

Just got back from my first outing from the flat since I arrived home on Tuesday. Just down to the shops at the end of the street for prescriptions. Walk down was sunny, warm (but not too warm), gentle breeze. As I stepped out of the chemist after they filled my scripts, the sky was ominously grey and big fat raindrops had started falling. It was like someone had switched the sky for the short while I was inside! By the time I'd reached the end of the shops it was raining in earnest. So, undaunted, I simply walked home in the rain umbrella-less, letting those fat raindrops freefall on me. Another of those free-feeling moments, a bit like walking (or running) barefoot.

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Yes @Mazarita and walking on sand can be hard work. Yes I am lucky. A singing friend of mine had a dreadful case of shingles which paralysed her and she is singing this concert sitting on a walker. She is an examiner and has a very robust sense of community and intellect.... but the body .... does age ...

Take care of yourself Maz

Walking in the rain.

@Sophia1 @Bunniekins @Faith-and-Hope

Ha @Silenus SO glad you are here.

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Hahaha... yes... the old fumbling in the semi-dark for the right tube in one's wet bag... it has become an issue for me again, now that I am travelling so much with work... staying in motels, hoiking things out of the boot of the car and into the room, only to repeat the process in reverse a few days later...

I thank whatever deities look after such things that I haven't yet brushed my teeth with the haemorrhoid cream...

I thank whatever deities look after such things that I haven't just revealed way too much, beyond decorum's limits... I'm an ageing fart... I believe in embracing these unfortunate things that happen to us as we age... if we can't laugh about it, well, then the same exact physical ailments persist, only we will feel bad about it instead of peacefully resigned (and fighting it at the edges, only giving ground grudgingly)...

Mortality is a wonderful thing, especially when it is revealed to us in increments...

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good morning

@Mazarita @Silenus @eth @Appleblossom @Bunniekins @Teej @Faith-and-Hope

cant think of words to say

just lovely to be in contact...have a calming weekend xx

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Good morning @Mazarita Nice to hear you have settled in again. Wonderful to hear about the feedback at your screening - 'Masterpiece' indeed. Sending warm wishes and hoping you have a peaceful day today.

Good morning too to @Silenus @Sophia1 @Appleblossom @Faith-and-Hope @Bunniekins @Teej @Former-Member @outlander @soul @Former-Member @catgirl @Shaz51 @catgirl @NameUnknown ............. wow, so many people passing through this thread lately, hope I haven't missed anyone ...........hoping you all have a nice morning. The sun is shining here again at last, the washing is on, and I'm about to go out and rake a ton of mulch into the gardens.

Looking forward to catching up later.

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@Sophia1 have a lovely weekend lots of love gp xx

Same goes to @Mazarita@Appleblossom@Faith-and-Hope@eth@Teej (who I have not spoken to for a few days .... hope you are doing okay) @outlander@Sans911@Former-Member@Snowie xxx

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Good morning to you @Sans911 too. Sorry I missed you.

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Here's hoping for a very pleasant weekend for everyone

@Bunniekins @Mazarita @eth @Sophia1 @Silenus@Appleblossom @Faith-and-Hope @Teej @outlander @Sans911 @Snowie hope have not missed anyone.

Going to try to fit a few more things away from the computer into my day today, so won't be on here as long as I am most days.

Have some writing projects that will take more of my attention coming up too, so that will also impact on time spent here as I wont' be able to skip from one thing back here as easily as I often do.

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