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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@Mazarita Hi Maz how did your first night go? I am sure you blew them all away! Hoping it was a success for you.Cannot wait to hear more when you are ready. Love gp xxx

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@eth,
Sorry you having such a hard time. I gave up on services like that to be honest, for most of them I either have too much or not enough to get their help but i get by with just my psych and GP. I also get being triggered by talking about your past. I can write about it so easily but actually talking about it its hard. I also find that my past triggers others even those who had good childhood have actually been told that "you cant be sexually abused at 3 its just not possible" then theres the "so you had a bad childhood your and adult now grow up and get over it" i have literally had people tell me this and its hard when people have that ignorance. I hope you managed to sleep and that you feel better

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Good Morning @eth , Mazy @Mazarita , @NameUnknown , @Bunniekins , @Faith-and-Hope & everyone passing by 🙂

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@Former-Member Good morning rainbow Niqua 😄 wishing your a wonderful day love gp xxxx

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I am so sorry to hear that you have been told these things @NameUnknown ..... so appalled ....!!

😔💜💐💕

Hi @Former-Member @Bunniekins 🌷

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Hi @eth I have done some ringing around and looked online and from what I can see back in 2016 Turnball flagged the idea of a 'death tax' idea of paying off HECS. Abbott said no way and even Shorten was against it. So you can own a mansion, a Bently be left hunds of thousands of $ but the tax office cannot get it as only if you are earning over the threshold the b*stards can get you.

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@NameUnknown Hi flowerpetals I am in a totally different situation to you but the other day I had my eldest autistic sign who is 7 foot tall standing by the main road during peak hour threatening to jump in front of a bus ... everyone was looking ... I felt so embarrassed .... when I am embarrassed I smile ... my emotions are all mixed up due to these meds. When I told my Dr G and said how embarrassed I was as everyone was looking and judging me and my family but mostly me he said ... 'Dont worry about what other people say they have no idea of what you are dealing with. They just dont understand'. It made me feel so much better.

Dont worry about peoples judgement they havent walked in your shoes. xxxxx

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Good morning all, hoping today is one of the better ones. @CheerBear @Bunniekins @Mazarita @outlander @Faith-and-Hope @NameUnknown @Former-Member thankyou all so much for your support. It means more to me than I can say. Often in real life I am stumped for words but on here I am able to get it all out at times. I'm so grateful for the listening ears, especially when you all have so much to deal with already. I ended up taking a prn med at 4 am and getting some sleep and less obsessive rehashing of it all when I woke. I am sure that getting it out on the forums helped enormously too.

@Mazarita I really hope your screening went better than you could have hoped. Very much looking forward to hearing about it. Hoping you can relax today and unwind from the build-up.

@Bunniekins I was just cautioning you about how much the indexation can increase the debt over time. Sorry if it bugged you.

@NameUnknown I think the things that have been said to you are outrageous. And I really feel for you with your childhood experience. I know what it feels like to have someone say "Aren't you over that yet?" These days I try to tell myself 'Those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter'. True friends and truly supportive family will always accept where you're at, not negate your experience, and understand that some things change us and affect us forever. No-one can put a time on the grief and many other feelings from the loss of innocence in early life, the stolen simplicity of childhood. Thankyou for sharing here.

@CheerBear your tree sounds gorgeous. A magic faraway tree that provides a haven for your awakening to the day.

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Morning @eth so sorry for what you are going through, and sorry I did not get here earlier to keep you company too.

I have not had to do anything with the NDIS - I won't qualify apparently, so no point me even trying.

I have not yet managed to get to your post, but I shall and will come back. I cannot express how much I wish things were different, so many things, for so many people.

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Hi @Former-Member thanks a lot for being here.

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