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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Mr shaz drinks lots of cordial @Bunniekins

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@Mazarita Mazzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I see you there 😄

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@Mazarita Gee that is good. I was surrounded by drinkers growing up it is good Mr Shaz is not a drinker.

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Hi everyone from down south. Just caught up on posts I've been tagged in this thread. Had a much calmer journey down than anticipated, still glad when the plane landed though. Mum and I have had lots of hugs, intense conversations of a good time and only one glitch today, which just prompted us to give the other a bit of space, a good thing after so much talk. I was out last night at a pub (a rarity for me) with a friend and a couple of others. Good time but I had a few wines, which has left my gut a bit poisonous today. The rest of the time I've been organising other meetups while I am here and taking a little time for deep breaths and collecting myself. I've also been having very intense dreams. It's pretty hectic for me, as anticipated, so now is the first chance I've had to check in here. It's taken me ages to write this on my mobile, so I will leave it here. Love and hugs to all. So glad you are continuing to chat here while I am mostly away. ox Maz

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ohhhhhh wow @Mazarita

Hope you drank some water today after the wine my scotirish sister , wow 1 day gone xoxo

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Soooooooooooooooooooooooo good to hear from you Mazy @Mazarita Missing you heaps . . . & it's all good 🙂 Great to hear about you & your Mum! {even the little glitch ;)}

Oh . . . & listen to Shaz . . . drink more water! {nag, nag, nag :)}

Love you Mazy

Niqua

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So good to see you pop up @Mazarita and to hear that you arrived safely. Hope you get enough of those quiet moments to balance some of the hectic times.

Missing you but enjoying imagining you off adventuring and having fun 💗

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Good morning @Mazarita @Bunniekins @Former-Member @Shaz51 @Former-Member @CheerBear hoping today's off to a good start for you all. Lovely to see the chat continue here on my favourite thread.

I agree with you @Former-Member about it being a safe haven.

As much as I'd like to keep up with more threads and get to know more people better I find I'm just not up to following too much at this time. Or should I say, I follow but don't necessarily join the conversations.

@Mazarita my old hangover cure used to be a lemon and lime mineral water and a packet of twisties. Not exactly healthy but it always worked. Hope your tummy settles soon. Enjoy your social times down there, but also the quiet times in between. Good that you and your Mum were able to give each other some time out. Good that the flight wasn't too stressful for a change.

Will go and catch up on the chat now but wanted to say Hi first in case anyone's around at the moment.

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@eth Yes I agree with you eth this is such a soothing thread I really enjoy it. I am studying atm so wont be on for awhile but hoping that you have a good day. Good morning to @Mazarita@CheerBear@Former-Member@Shaz51@outlander@li1 (hope you are ok hun) xx

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Good Morning Mazy @Mazarita, Claire @outlander, @eth , @Shaz51 , @CheerBear , @Bunniekins , @Faith-and-Hope , and everyone passing by 🙂

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