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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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This album's from a 1984 concert @Mazarita and has all their classics on it. It's been a blast from the past tonight in a good way.

BRB

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Ah, okay, mixup with memory there, @eth. My friend thrashed something by Talking Heads. It had 'Psycho Killer' on it? I still love 'Take Me to the River'.

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No mix up @Mazarita I was into them from around 1979. Psycho Killer is played at this concert too.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7UEPxuRPLoI

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Ah, it's falling into place now, @eth. 'Stop Making Sense' is a concert film directed, I think, by Jonathon Demme. I haven't seen the film but used to know someone who loved it. The album would be the soundtrack.

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That's the one @Mazarita An absolute classic as far as I'm concerned. I'm really glad I rediscovered it tonight.

Are you unwinding now?

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Talking Heads are classic, agreed, @eth. I'm still feeling jittery really. But a show I love is coming on in half an hour and I think it will help me to wind down to sit in my comfy chair, relax and take it in for a couple of hours. It's called 'Harlots', a period show with really great acting and interesting content about women. SBS Vice channel at 9.20. Double episodes on Friday nights.

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Glad to hear you have a plan to settle you tonight @Mazarita . I'll probably watch some TV too. The album just finished. It's later here of course but I might still catch some of Harlots. Mystery Diners is on too and that's one I like.

Hope you get some good rest overnight. I'll still be here for a little while if you are.

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I think I will go offline now, @eth. The relaxing chair is calling me. I'll watch something else before Harlots comes on and start the proper wind down that way. Enjoy the rest of your evening. So glad you've had joy with music and dancing tonight.

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Good night @Mazarita

Hi @Former-Member how are you going?

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Hello @eth

probably better not to ask.....

have had an absolutely crap day and evening...

husband avoiding me..we are like two wired up cats

I am angry tearful fed up over everything and annoyed with myself for not handling this better..

sorry about the gloom..

how are you?

I also wondered how @Mazarita fared with the inspection..she should have got 11 out of 10 and had a reduction in rent..

how are you getting on with just you and the dog?

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