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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@Bunniekins, I've done that too, get a crush on a psychiatrist, I mean. The first psychiatrist I saw it was, really got myself into a bit of a pickle feeling too amorous towards him. That was a long time ago though. I probably have a faint crush on my current psychiatrist, but not really, mostly just respect and appreciation.

Yes, a nana nap is on the cards for later.

Are you doing anything today, @Bunniekins?

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@Mazarita Yes I am about the same with my Dr G he is just such a kind and lovely person as well as being incredibily good looking ... he has no faults. His wife is one lucky lady. I still have to clean the garage ... I am not looking forward to that because under the boxes is a roach big enough to put a saddle on!! *cries* but it has to be done. He is the size of a pony!!! 😞

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Eeewww, cockroaches give me the heebeegeebees too, @Bunniekins. Good luck in your battle with the monster.

Had to laugh at your psychiatrist having no faults. I used to feel the same about that first one I had a crush on. Then I happened to see him buying milk at the corner shop before our session. He dilly dallied, lifted cartons, peered at writing on the carton, quite a ninny about it, lol. Then I thought maybe there was more to know, outside of the sessions dynamic.

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@Mazarita Well funny you should say that you have to wonder about who would volunteer to be a psychiatrist ... the burn out rate must be heading towards 100%. Why on earth would anyone work with people like me!!!!! Sure the money is great but still ... and I am sure there are some amuzing moments ... but .... my psychriatrist knows he is good looking too hehehehe!

I bet he has all the young interns and nurses all a flutter!!! hehehehe!

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@Bunniekins, it must be the morning for it. I was thinking just a little earlier about how I feel sympathy for my mental health professionals too (and in general). I especially feel for how hard it must be to treat people year after year when progress can be so slow in many cases. Thinking about myself especially, my improvements seem very slow to 'take' hold as patterns. In general my improvement from the last breakdown I had is modest. It is profound to me though to be even this much better than where I was, and I guess they are intelligent enough to see this too. Though it's not always the case that people improve either. One of my psychologists told me in an early session that the suicide rate for psychiatrists and psychologists is high.

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@Mazarita That is sad but yes I can believe that. My Dr G goes on regular breaks away ... I hate it when he goes but perfectly understand it. I couldnt do what he does.

Well after trying to talk my overly reluctant daughter into helping me clean up the garage I will have to be happy washing the car instead! Good talking to you as always Mazarita! Hopefully we will talk again later today. Take care gp

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Thanks for keeping company, and for keeping my mind active, while still in my heavy body, want to go back to bed, stage of today, @Bunniekins. Catch you later and have a good one.

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Hi @MoonGal, I was just going to post here about this before I saw your post on the other thread. I'm feeling very floppy too today.

If you and everyone could see how ragged and slow moving I am today, you might laugh that I also just rang a local gym and arranged to go in there tomorrow to sign up. Who knows where I'm going to find the energy for it. But there it is, I'm going to have a go. In my whole life I've only ever worked out in a gym for a couple of months in the 1990s. But, hey, why not take up the gym at 55, just as I am in menopause, overheating at the dop of a hat and more profoundly fatigued as a general rule than ever before?

Now the really big question: what am I going to wear?!

Hi @everyone, hope the afternoon is treating all okay.

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Sounds like a plan @Mazarita.

Lots of Gyms offer personal planners and even sports physiologists who will craft an exercise plan suited to bodily needs, maybe the new Gym offers that too - also you could ask if there is seniors classes, one thing I don't like at the Gym is arriving at the same time as the body beautiful. (That's their thing and I don't judge them for that... (well not much anyway) but I feel very self conscious with my weight and floppy old bits.

Start slow and sure and be a turtle not a hare. 🐌 <- no turtle icon. Snail works. Just try not to leave a trail around the gym. LOL

What are you going to wear?

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@Mazarita@MoonGal do you mind if I join in the convo?

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