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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@Mazarita I think those goals are fantastic! Perhaps add 'and other essential errands and appointments' to no. 5

I'm still really happy for you that you have such an effective support/advocate. It makes all the difference.

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@eth I think that they have already made a decision with me that I need the help and it's just a question now of how much help. Your sense of surrender just before you went into the two meetings seems like it was a wise mind/feeling decision at a moment most helpful.

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Thanks for your encouraging words about my goals, @eth. I have added 'and other essential errands' to no. 5. I seem able to mostly get myself to appointments. I have recovered somewhat since the start of last year, just that its been going in slow inches forward.

Still trying to come to terms with being 'that' disabled, facing it inspires sadness.

But I am only day 4 of a new anti-depressant, at half the clinical dose. Feeling a bit down, but I knew I wouldn't suddenly be grand.

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You're right, you're already across the line @Mazarita ... and I totally know what the swings and roundabouts of feelings of sadness etc vs hope can feel like. I'm looking forward with you to the day your plan budget is finalised and comes through and you can spend your energy focusing on things you would like to do with it, knowing that you can. It's a wonderful feeling.

I'm only here for another 10 min or so.

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@Mazarita hope your adjustment to the new med settles down soon for you. I'm on quite a cocktail these days but they do seem to keep me reasonably stable. When I swing it's not as extreme and it doesn't last as long.

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@Mazarita as always, it's been fabulous to chat in real time with you. Not sure when next I'll be on here - I don't usually come on every day any more. Depends how things go tomorrow morning. I try to limit my commitments to 2 things a day and 2 days a week of no things. Roughly. But it's lovely knowing we will do this again in the near future. Take good care my friend xx

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Thanks, @eth. Lovely talking today. Enjoy your dinner.

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@Mazarita Hello

Good to see your chat with @eth

Just watching random stuff online.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kF1GsAHBzeY

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Hi @Appleblossom cool with the random stuff. Used to love going on random web trips learning about things, for example, on Wikipedia, going link to random link following trails of curiousity, never knew where I was going to end up. The effects of the net on the world seem bad in some ways, and so damn good in others.

Went for a couple of hours sleep around twilight. All nighter last night.

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Hi @eth online now if you happen to be available for a chat.

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