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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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hope you had a good weekend @eth

enjoy the rest of your day my friend

family zoom trivia night - 21 of us all together-- wow that does sounds interesting

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Full moon, a campfire and a tiny caravan - with dawn views something like this .......

Soooo peaceful.

@Shaz51 @Former-Member and not sure who else asked for pictures. The real ones have me in them so can't be posted here.

Adding tags ... @Faith-and-Hope @Zoe7 @Sans911 @Adge @TAB @MDT @outlander @Snowie @Jupiter @Blep @Appleblossom @Angels333 @CheerBear @Maggie @Bunniekins @Judi9877 @frog @Former-Member @Former-Member @s-jay @Mazarita @Former-Member and sorry if I've missed anyone who's tagged or supported me recently. Hope today is going smoothly and none of you are struggling with too heavy stuff. It's weird how just a few days away can feel like a long time in forum land. I think my head's still up at the farm! Reading and supporting in an attempt to catch up a bit, but haven't got a lot of words for responses. Know I care and will be around more this week (Wednesday already - how did that happen?).

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gorgeous pics @eth wish I was there

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Beautiful photos @eth

hey thank you for your caring about me my sister @outlander xoxo

the blueness went away that afternoon , the next day it came back a little bit

tomorrow having more pre transplant blood tests done so going to ask the doctor about my oxegen levels xx

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@Shaz51 ❤❤

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Tame Otter having a Bath - absolutely Gorgeous...

@OtterYou may like this (I thought of you)...

https://youtu.be/p_6nbBAJNxI

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Love the fire and full moon @eth - looks absolutely wonderful and so peaceful. Hugs to you too Hon

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Life is very Tricky, for many people at the moment - including me.

So I remembered this Song (It's Tricky)....

https://youtu.be/l-O5IHVhWj0

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Wow @eth those photos look amazing. I wish I could be out in the middle of nowhere under the full moon.

Things have been pretty good on my end. My parents and aunty came over for a visit today to see our little man. He was giving smiles all round. Was such a wonderful sight. Now we are trying to do sleep training and it is really pulling at my heart strings! We are trying the ferber method and for the first night at 50mins total to get him to sleep I think isn't too bad but I must say hearing that cry ... 😭🥺

Sometimes I guess you need to get them to learn things in a hard way for it will be good for them in the long run, especially when it comes to sleep which is vital for development. I just hope we are doing the right thing and not causing him any long-term damage

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@Blep

Hearing about your sleep training tugged at my heart strings too. DId not know there was a name for that method. Nice that you got good time in with your little man.

@AdgeLove the otter.

@MazaritaGood to see you pop in Bella

@Zoe7 @outlander

@Former-MemberI see you here and there. Hugs.

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