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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Hi @Owlunar I'm glad you like the Quotes & Pictures.

I don't create them myself (with some fancy Software) - I have no capacity to do that.

I find them Online - after lengthy searching...

Adge

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Hi everyone.

It’s been a long tough day.

Work paid less than half of my Annual Leave (Hours Applied for) that was already Approved.

They Defaulted to Minimum Hours (3 hours per day/ 12 hours per week) - & paid that amount instead.

Not sufficient to pay my expenses.

Work have sent several harassing emails – requiring immediate Online Virus training (of some sort).

Whilst we are all on Leave, & should not be required to complete anything in our own time (on Leave).

This has been stressful, as I am unable to deal with it – I don’t have the Link or Information on Where to do this training (Certificate).

Plus no-one should be checking their work emails, whilst we are all on Leave.

I lodged an Intention to Claim Newstart (with Centrelink) – then was forced (Redirected) to Complete an Entire Online Newstart Application (which took me several hours).

This was because, when I declared (being Paid) Annual Leave – Centrelink (Online) said I did not meet the C Virus Special Provisions.

Misinformation – their publicity says that the Normal Requirements (for Newstart) have been Waived (suspended) – they were not.

Blistering headache....

I hope someone had a good/ nice day...

Adge

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Hi @Owlunar You might like this one....

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Hi and well wishes to @outlander, @Shaz51, @Maggie and everyone reading.

@Zoe7 glad you liked the image of the beautiful birds. My close friend here used to have them visit her little back courtyard. It was dense with trees, shrubs and plants out there, and a bird bath that various species liked to visit. She's moved to a new house now and her environment there is even more beautiful. Now it's different birds, and the occasional water dragon visiting her back yard. So good you love house painting. It would be good exercise and not something I would manage without going to gym for about 100 years, and slowly worked up to it, hehe. Hugs.

@MDT doh that I didn't get the ham and the solo in your avatar. Lol! Glad you liked the bird picture as well.

@Bunniekins hey there, dear Pea. Good to hear you are still walking most mornings. You've been doing it a long time now. But not so great with the dodgy men out at 3.45am! From what you've said before, I seem to remember there is a reason you go so early. Have you thought about late afternoon or dusk walks?

But it must feel good to regularly see the dawn fresh and early. Many of the times I see it I am in a very shaggy state from being up all night. Sometimes I think an early morning walk on the beach would be good when I am still up at that time. Then I think my body would really rebel at doing big exercise when I am so physically drained of energy, and maybe that's even more of a strain on my health. Does that sound like an excuse? Hoping I might get myself out on the beach tomorrow.

@Appleblossom what is purslaine? Sometimes it's good to change the house around. Feels good sometimes to get a change of head position in bed, for example, facing different directions.

@frog sorry to hear of your anxiety. I have having waves of it too, especially a lot in the earlier weeks of the pandemic. Disorientation is a big thing for me too. Hopefully I'm slowly unwinding and coming to absorb things a bit better, though it's still day by day. I suspect that with time we may get used to the future being more unknown than most of us have experienced before. This may be a time when, 'one step at a time', has special meaning.

@Owlunar pleased you are rediscovering memories at this time. But I know from experience that they can be sometimes feel bad, sometimes good, perhaps more often, a mix of both.

Yesterday and today I was remembering when I was very young living in the country, looking back fondly on that time. Not that it was always good, sometimes scary within the home and without. But there were good things about it, living in open spaces on the land, so young the world is still so fresh and jam-packed full of discoveries.

Great that you were able to avoid denial of the sad feelings you had at Easter, turning it into appreciation of how there have been changes for the better in your life.

@Adge sorry about that awful day with Centrelink. I too took them at their word on the official government page about the restrictions. Pity they are not doing what they say.

Interesting to know because my companion (C) quit his childcare job two days ago. It was a similar situation to you. Though he's been working 32 or more hours per week for a long time now, he's still officially classed as part-time, and they are not obliged to give him any particular hours per week. He's gone through extended periods with less than 20 hours per week before. All the staff there are taking massive reductions of hours, any holiday leave they have, and also unpaid leave, as there are hardly any kids turning up.

As with you, my chronic health problems make me especially at risk with the virus. And, as with some of the other high-contact jobs still in operation, there is no personal protection gear on offer, except latex gloves. Childcare centres are incredible hotbeds of infection of any kind at the best of times. Pre-school kids are all over each other and the teachers all the time. As it is early days for them in life, it's impossible to keep them clean and hygienic.

So all of that put together has prompted to C to leave the job. Hoping Centrelink aren't too difficult with him about it, especially because he's mainly trying to protect my life.

Enjoying your image posts, giving me some giggles. I'd like to see you flying a broom hehe. Maybe @eth and I could get ours out too for a night flying sesh (staying metres apart from each other in the sky, of course).

@eth no worries with the glitch out at the end of our real life chat. I was really needing to go about then anyway. Great that you had a good day recently, and also cool that you are being flexible with yourself about how hard or easy you go at things at different times. Looking forward to seeing a pic of your slippers when they are done. Nice that there is some learning of new things with technology happening as well. Your vege garden is marvellous, with all those beautiful herb names.

Went to visit my close friend today. I've been umming and ahhing about whether it was okay to do that. The law here in Queensland is that you can actually have two close friends in your home, even if you are sharing it. So we are on the right side of the law here. Anyway, did it, loved it. Sat at an unusual distance from each other. Her doctor told her today that there are no cases of the virus at all on this end of the GC where we live. We both took some heart in that. It brought my spirits up, as it usually does, to sit outside in the beautiful back yard with her, having hot drinks and warm chat.

When I got home, I found inspiration to do something I've been wanting to do for at least a month. C helped me turn the mattress on my bed, which had started getting saggy where I lay. I then put on new sheets and doona cover and sprayed each layer with eucalyptus spray. I usually do that when changing bedding because of the humidity here.

It is the first time I've had a doona on the bed since the end of last year, chillier nights now. Anyway, that one job with the bed took me about two hours! That's how slow I go doing anything physical except walking. Even then it's a slower pace than most. With housework I need to take breaks after about each 30 minutes or so.

Also had a shower today. My body is feeling cared for by myself now.

Special love to @Exoplanet.

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Your friend's garden sound amazing @Mazarita I have a small backyard but with 2 beautiful big trees in the corner. I have a lot of birds visit but the Wattle birds are my favourites. I often see them in the trees, on the fence or just sitting in the yard. Toby leaves them alone too which is unusual because he likes to chase and bark at the birds.

I have finished the first coat on all the walls but ran into an issue on the ceiling - so have to fix that tomorrow. I will do another coat on the walls tomorrow too then once the patched area on the ceiling is dry I can paint that Friday. I still have all the trims to do but that will be the last thing I do. I expected to be done by Friday but it may take another day now. I do enjoy painting but my arms are certainly feeling it tonight.

Your matress flipping exercise today sounded tiring - but lovely to have a fresh bed hey.

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Hey @Mazarita

Hope you have a nice day today. Well done on getting that stuff done too !

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Your friend's garden sound amazing @Mazarita

my mum would love to have her garden beautiful again but she is unable to do what she did when she was younger

but i try to keep up the weeding in between , she still has lots of flowers and trees which still attract birds and butterflies , such as rain trees, fireball lillies , a coral tree ect

Hello and hugs @Zoe7 , @MDT , @Adge , @Owlunar , @Exoplanet , @eth

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G'day @Shaz51
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