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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Good plan re the painting @Zoe7 - you always seem to have a major project when you get 'holidays'. I guess owning your own home is like that (I think you do?). I hadn't seen the MM marathon - what channel was it on? I like that show too. Lately I've been watching Informer and The Heights on iView on my laptop.

Loving the music @Adge !

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It's on Foxtel @eth - I love the UK tv and BBC tv channels - and they are getting a lot of use without any sport on to watch.

I need something to fill some of the time usually in holidays but this time I am very tired also so not pushing myself to do more than I can manage easily. The patching and washin of walls should take 2 days then the painting another day ...the painting bit is the easy pare - it is the prep work that takes the longest. I love painting so it will also be enjoyable when I get to it.

I haven't seen Informer but I have seen a little of the Heights - couldn't get into it.

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@Mazarita Hey lovely lady I had my big fluffy dressing gown on today it felt like it was about 5 degrees where I am :o! yes I have been going for walks with neighbour at ungodly hours lol.... this morning we were hitting the pavement at 3.45am!!! There were a couple of dodgy men out at that time but other than that it was really quiet. Going to watch crime movie with son2 (he loves crime movies lol) and then will probably head back to bed for a lil nap. I hope you have a great day and enjoy the soft sunshine love peaxxx

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G'day @eth
Buying coffee atm. Then home. Chilling out I think.

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Hi @Zoe7

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Hi @MDT 👋

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@Zoe7 yeah The Heights is really just a dolled up soapy!

@Bunniekins Hi. I love crime shows too. What one are you watching?

@MDT might be time for me to make a fresh coffee too I think. I do miss a bought one, only have a plunger here, but not going out for anything at the moment. Except the occasional walk with bro.

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You could get a stove top maker @eth

I find that's the best

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@Mazarita

Hi Maz - I do love the picture of the budgies - I used to keep budgies before I was married - I had not thought of that for a long time

One good thing about the current crisis - it seems to me I am getting in touch with my old memories - the things I used to do - I had forgotten the budgies after all the cats I had

It is wise to limit our time on-line generally - if we feel like being on for longer and we have the time - why not? But if we find it better to be on-line for a short time and limit our contacts then that's better for us - we need to be kind to ourselves - it's part of being our own best friend - we need to keep in touch with what is in our soul - it can be lovely there if we hare not hassled and worried about the world

Also - caring for our mental health is a priority at the moment - I had a pain-flare on Saturday when the weather turned sour - after such a good start - and I had moment with my memories of a sadder time at Easter - I didn't push the thoughts aside but rather considered the implications of that time and how much things have changed for the better. I felt better during the evening yesterday as if the day had passed and woke up this morning feeling okay and then had an unexpected call from an old friend from church and we talked about my going back - it was good to share this with something I trust - after things have settled I hope to go to a late morning weekday service - I do miss the worship side of things - so that's more good news from me

It's good to work outside when the weather is fine - Melbourne has had very indifferent weather this Easter and this has kept people inside - camping in their lounge room even - I am not into camping when I have a perfectly good bed - and I like the amenities of my own home - but good news also that people stayed at home this Easter - it's different and variety is the spice of life

We are living in a different world now and I wonder what life will be like when all this has passed - it will be wonderful just to talk to people without standing apart - without people telling us to step back - and without - in my case - a scarf wrapped around my face -

Thanks for your sensitive thoughts - I do appreciate that - and good to that you are limiting your time

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@eth just finished watching Cold Pursuit with Liam Neeson :D. Son2 really enjoyed it which is great and so did I for that matter. I love all the abc and bbc crime shows and even the ncis series. What do you like?

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