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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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See you @Teej , hopefully sooner rather than later xx

Feel free to join in @Former-Member x

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@eth, I use Open Office too, but can always open Word documents there. Maybe your version needs an update?

If you have a Gmail/Google account, you can also use their online editor, and download in a format of your choice (pretty sure that's possible). Let me know if you'd like more info on how to do that.

What gives me good moments? Enjoying C's happy mood about being on holidays - I tend to get happy when he does. It's 'infectious' in the best way.

What else? Visiting my close friend a lot just now and we spend hours at her table on her back porch. Great to spend time out in the air and sun like that. She lives in a beautiful valley with lots of trees and gorgeous bird life, so being there with that is great as well.

Enjoying my Spanish lessons on DuoLingo, but with my arm pain (that goes to my finger tips) it's getting harder to do that on mobile. So trying to get used to doing it standing up at my desktop, which is what I'm doing now.

Film-making when I'm doing it, which is very regularly. Just now I'm taking a bit of a break before getting into the next film on my list.

What are you enjoying most these days?

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No, thats okay @eth ... happy to let you long-term friends catch up while you can. Obviously you dont get many chances to all get together much lately. Didnt really like to intrude. Yeah thanks @Teej .. hi to you too. @Mazarita

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@Former-Member, we are happy to have you with us. You are always welcome here and happy to have group chat at any time. Please stay if you'd like to chat. x

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For me it's water tai chi @Mazarita in a heated pool at a physio clinic. But it's been sporadic lately (usually twice weekly) with our teacher being away and now covid. So I've been using that sw time to go to the beach just to sit or sometimes have a walk on the paths there. Occasionally a cafe stop but trying hard not to spend as I had 2 trips away since Christmas and one of them was pretty indulgent. It included 3 days at a coastal resort for a friend's 60th birthday. Great fun but not cheap.

I also enjoy my writing when I do it (but the writers group next weekend might not happen), find the driving lessons promising, and still enjoy cooking for the clan weekly (tho' that might be on hold for a while, not sure yet).

Interesting times.

The problem with editing docs has something to do with the file type (pdf, .docx, odt etc) I think, but I haven't worked it out yet. Sil has shown me a couple of things but I can't remember them when trying to do it alone. But maybe you're right about needing to update open office. Will suss that out next time I'm on there.

Your 2nd suggestion (google version) sounds a bit complicated for me to attempt. I'm still a total tech dinosaur!

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@Mazarita your friend's place sounds lovely. Great to hear you and C are as close as ever. And go you with learning spanish. Are you still living close to the beach?

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Thanks @Mazarita 💕 you are very kind. But I need to go now .. things I should be doing.

But its been nice listening along though. Gave me a much needed distraction.

I guess thats me in real life too ... more of an observer.

Thanks all of you ... @eth @Teej @Mazarita and waves to @TAB

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@eth, pdf will not open in Open Office or in Word. Other formats are okay though. Usually Word produces a file with the extension .doc or .docx. Either of these are okay to open in Open Office for me. But a bit of hands-on help from SIL might be good when she has time.

Sounds like you have a lot that brings pleasure and satisfaction now, @eth. So great. It's amazing to me how far you have moved forward. Remembering when we first met here and you were up north. Such a different and much more optimistic and rewarding life you are living now.

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Cool, @Former-Member. Look forward to seeing you next time. Hope the rest of your day goes well.

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that's so true about how different and better my life is here @Mazarita

Spotted you there too @Appleblossom - Hi - come join us!

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