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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Well @eth

I'll be danged - not having your arranged driving lesson cancelled because of a sick horse is such a good excuse it couldn't be made up - it must be true - I never heard of that one before and alas - I don't have a horse so I can't use that one myself

Life can be such a puzzle at times

Shopping trips - ah - yes - I will have someone taking me shoping and over time I have met a lot of the people from an agency so I might have someone I know but if it's stranger - that can be the "pick-of-the-draw" event - but at least before Christmas I have my regulars I think - and I have to get a few small things to mail to my grand-daughter pretty soon and also have some little things for my daughter - and something for my son-in-law so a trip to Bunnings might help there -

I can get little things from the pharmacy - and if I got on the right day the girl who works there is happy to wrap little things - and she likes to add ribbons and bows and stuff - so it works out well - the whole family is aware that I am totally useless at wrapping gifts - sigh - that is where the Grinch bites me at Christmas -

Anyway

Your brother is back and you have to disappear - I getcha - you live in a flat on his property and he doesn't think it's great that you spend time on-line - actually in my life being on the computer is the best time - but that's life -

I hope it all works out - and life goes on - soon enough we will be preparing for Christmas 2020 - is that a lucky number?

All the best Eth

Dec

Hi Eth - have the best Tuesday you can

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Hi @Adge

i reckon this might be for me as I know I have. I'm 34 and yes it should of been ironed-out by now. Oh devil take me now.

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Hi @eth @Owlunar 👋❤️

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Hi @BlueBay

I'm sending everyone my favourite Tuesday pic so you had better get one too - actually it feels a bit like handing out Christmas cards

I haven't got down to your thread yet but I did read a bit last night - I see the guy followed you around the shop - pest-of-a-thing - that is a form of harrassment - I know and although you can't tell him you don't like him - I wouldn't say that either - I think saying

"Excuse me - but I am working and you're interupting me" would be quite okay - and pertinent too - he would be causing you to delay your work and you don't need that

So you have a couple more weeks of him - luckily only on Mondays for you but what about Saturdays? I know you are doing extra shifts then

It's tricky - it really is something you need to talk about with the management for your own sake bit then there will be the change of ownership - so what can you do - one day was okay but just okay - I know how tough these things are for you

You can ring the police if this man starts to actively harrass you - it sounds as if you kept your cool yesterday and this might discourage him - but it's not pleasant at all

Sending my best

Dec

Hi BlueBay - take a good day today - it's your turn about now

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Thankyou so much @Owlunar

you totally understand how hard this is for me. I do work with him on thurs snd fri but only 4 hours and never on my own.
Oh damn I just remembered I'm working this sat with him and it will be just me and him from 9-1pm.
I wish I nrver stsrted that post.

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Hi @eth and @Owlunar. Sorry not much to say today, but I wanted to say hi and that I am around, even if not commenting xx

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Hello @Molliex

@Owlunar @eth @BlueBay

@opinions2019dec

Not sure who is interested but I love this

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3VZSJKbzyMc

Saddened by events over the Tasman and looking at their geology ...

and other stuff

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@Appleblossom

Im more sadden over how humans treat on another irrespective of disablitieis and illnesses. Got scammed pricey tomato sauce today and not very happy about it. I didnt do or say anything to invite a helpless soul like me get scammed, its just human nature or is it.

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I will be away from the 26th to the 31st december , but going to take my laptop with me , so I can connect with the forum , fingers crossed

today , cleaned for 6 hours and boy i am sooooo sore , walking with a limp

home at 2-30pm and now relaxing

had some rain here last night and today -- yaaaaaaa

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Well?
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