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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@Appleblossom they upgraded me coz I've figured out what's going on. I'm now in rehab. I'm really scared here.

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@Adge it was 40 degrees here, I'm in qld, with bushfires around me. so hot but we're fine. like you will be to, it's ok to be alone. there's nothing wrong with it. sometimes it's just what we need, sometimes we choose it, sometimes it's out of our control. whichever the case, you are never alone. you may feel lonely, but you are not alone. always here just for a chat if you need it xoxo

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A new place and system can take a lot of getting used to. I hope that rehab will be better long term and give you more freedom than a typical hospital ward.

Gentle Hugs

@The-red-centaur

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Thanks @octavia A good reminder.

Alone, but not really alone.

No I wouldn't choose it - I'm introverted, yet value deep social connections immensely.

A long run of extremely bad luck (9 years worth at least).

Adge

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good morning everyone, @Adge how are you today? sorry to hear you've had a bad run. we have an introvert in our family too. she's only a teenager, and would rather be alone. but we know as she grows up things will change for her. we will be here to support her. have you got anyone to support you?

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Hi everyone. Hope today is going smoothly for you good folk. I was off-line all day yesterday because I couldn't get any internet. Thanks for all the tags - I haven't read individual posts yet but wanted to say Hi.

@TAB @cutiepiekitty @octavia @Former-Member @BlueBay @saturnzoon @MDT @CheerBear @Shaz51 @Former-Member @Maxi7 @Sophia1 @frog @outlander @Owlunar @Maggie @Adge @Appleblossom @Zoe7 @Bunniekins @Faith-and-Hope @Teej @Exoplanet @The-red-centaur

Best wishes for things to ease to all who are having a difficult time at the moment. Not sure if I'll get to respond individually to you all, but know I'm thinking of you.

Lots going on in my offline life at the moment, new things, last minute cancelled things and keeping up with regular things all causing pretty high anxiety and the need to just do nothing in between commitments. Tuesday was driving lesson, water tai chi and a live reading at the art gallery, with a cancellation by another new support worker that meant rearranging my day. I've decided not to go with her now coz that's twice she's stuffed me around and I haven't even been out with her yet. I know life happens for everyone, but I need people on my team who I can rely on to do what they say they will. Then Wednesday was meant to be psychologist, which I was hanging out for, and that was cancelled so instead did chemist, post office, a cafe and 10 mins at the beach - all up quite a relaxed time. Then vaccumed the main house and cooked to share with sil and her Mum last night.

Nothing on today but need to catch up on washing etc. Then tomorrow is grocery shopping and water tai chi. Need to do a list today as it's my 2nd last shop before Christmas and I want to get all the pantry stuff. Have so much on next week that I've had to sort out everything even basic needs 2 weeks in advance (including support worker bookings, when I can shop etc.)

Next Tuesday I have driving lesson then water tai chi, Wednesday psychologist, podiatrist and psychiatrist plus sil's birthday. Thursday is bro's birthday plus I'm doing a training with the disability alliance all day and then their christmas party in the evening. Then Friday I meet my peer mentor and later it's water tai chi. Somewhere in all that I need ordinary errands too.

So. .... if I'm not around much this is why.

Doesn't mean I'm not thinking of you all.

Sending my support to everyone who wants it.

Hoping to be around a bit to chat on the weekend.

Lotsa love, Eth

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Hi @eth

I know we can't get here everyday but we still think of our forum-friends - I took a couple of days off to catch up with myself earlier this week - enough life was happening - and that is life

And life does happen for other people too but if you are employing someone who has stuffed you around twice then that would possibly mean continuing disruption of her life into yours and you don't need that.

It sounds that even if you have cancellations you have a busy life - driving lessons, tai chi - cleaning the big house and cooking a big meal sounds like really busy to me

I wish you well with so much and hope your day is the best it can be - and really glad you dropped in - catch up when you can - we understand

Dec

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@eth That’s a busy time ahead for you. I guess life will be heading in the fast lane for many this time of year.

Sorry your support worker has cancelled twice. I presume this is the new one recently employed by you. You put so much time into making that decision, it’s sad it’s worked out like this.

We will be thinking of you in your busy days ahead. Take care. 💛💛💚💚❤️❤️

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