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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@saturnzoon I’m very much with @Bunniekins here. It’s just awful you are treated like this.

I really hope you are ok enough today. A fall can really shake you up. Sending lots of these. 💜💕💜💛💛💛💕💜💕🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️

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So sorry to hear about your precious feathered friends @Adge 🙁 That's awful for you. Not a lot of words but lots of thoughts being sent your way.

@saturnzoon school holidays can be so hard. I feel it too and hear you. I'm sorry your boys aren't helping with that. I hope your knee isn't too sore today. Thinking of you also.

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Oh @Adge so very sorry to hear this. Sending thoughts and these your way. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💕💕

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You need to tell your son @saturnzoon
That his behaviour is unacceptable

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Good morning everyone @MDT @Maggie @CheerBear @Bunniekins @Adge @saturnzoon @Gazza75 and anyone else around who I've missed.

Sending my warmest wishes to you @Adge I'll be thinking of you today. Be really gentle with yourself, maybe take the day off work so you have a chance to feel all the feelings you must be having and slow down a bit. Hugs

@saturnzoon sorry to hear of your fall in the night. Hope you're not in too much pain today. If it's bruising arnica cream can really help it resolve faster. You can get it at the chemist. Dreadful behaviour by your older son once again. I hadn't realised he's meant to be your carer. All the more reason his treatment of you is outrageous.

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Good Morning @eth 🙂

Hope you have a nice day today. Whats on the agenda?

I am stuckled at work as usual. I am heading out through the day to get a frame or one of my diamond paintings though. Pretty excited about that. I have another on order from a hobby shop as they didn't have the one I wanted to get in stock. Hopefully they call me about it soon as I'd like to get it sorted out sooner rather than later.

Good idea about the cream for @saturnzoon , I used to use Tiger balm a lot to, but, you have to be careful with that stuff if you get the red stuff. I found it worked amazingly well for me though. I'll have to look for some arnica cream as my mum and brother are always getting bruises.

Take care, lovely to hear from you as always.

@Adge, thinking of you mate. Hope you get through the day alright. I think my 'tag' last night didn't work for some reason. I know its been a torrid few weeks and things seem to build up and up. Please reach out for help if you need support and also if you need to vent and get stuff off your chest.. it might help.

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Hi @Gazza75 nice to hear from you too. Hope your day at work is ok and that you find a frame you love for your painting.

I have a busy day today, but some of it is for pleasure. Water tai chi in a heated pool (which I love and is also very good for body and mind), optometrist, grocery shopping, then a live reading presentation at the art gallery. All with my support worker. Have family coming to visit next week so need to get enough groceries for that as I won't have supports while they are here (and don't drive). Have to plan meals and shop accordingly. Need to get onto that shortly.

Tiger Balm is great stuff, but more for pulled muscles or spasms. Not good for bruising though as that means heat on top of inflammation. I've used and recommended arnica for bruising for many years - was a massage therapist for over 25 years. It's amazing.

Take care x

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Thanks @Gazza75 I hope your day is good.

Thanks @eth A good day to you too.

Adge

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Hang in there @Adge

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@saturnzoon That is not good. Hope you are not too sore. Your son should be better than that caing for you! Hope you get over the fall soon

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