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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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I'm ok too thanks @outlander . Not as exhausted as I was yesterday after getting back late Friday. Loads of kid wrangling when I was away. Mostly had a lovely time, just one afternoon support that went awry which I'm going to do a complaint about. Family is doing really well and adult child is recovering from surgery nicely.

Quiet weekend alone here, catching up on admin stuff etc.

Feeling nervous about an occupational therapy assessment for driving training tomorrow morning. As usual haven't heard from my coordinator of supports to finalize arrangements so I won't know til after 9 tomorrow morn whether it's at 10 or 12 and where it's happening.

Have a good day and stay cool when you can. In my eyes you're always cool!

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Sending you warm wishes @Adge Very much thinking of you and your B

Goodmorning @eth

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Hi @Zoe7 sorry for the delay replying. I'm doing ok today. Heading for a nap shortly. Hope you are travelling a bit better today.

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Still really flat and unmotivated @eth but need to find some energy from somewhere. Need to ask my sister if I can borrow some money otherwise I won't have internet or phone as it comes out over the next couple of days. Hopefully it is Tuesday so I have time to get to the bank tomorrow. Finances are ridiculous right now - too many bills at once and my relief day pay won't go in for another fortnight - it is just adding to how low I am feeling

I will need a nap too later today - feeling totally exhausted - looking forward to the holidays moreso now than I was. I am going to try to pick up another day this Thursday or the next one to help out a bit though. It will mean no day off but I need the money more.

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Thanks @eth Much appreciated.

No support from my brothers - they refused to talk about my Br (abruptly changed the subject), when I phoned specifically to talk about him.

The exact same response from them, as when my Dad died (they refused to talk about him).

People on the forum were very kind yesterday - that's my only support, at the moment.

Adge

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Thanks @Zoe7 Muchly.

My neighbour's extremely loud Boom Boom speakers (supposed music) all last night - has given me a splitting headache. Couldn't sleep till very late.

Getting ready for my back neighbour to come over, in 20 minutes time.

I just went out & bought some goodies (nibblies) for her (& me).

Adge

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I think it is wonderful you still have that regular get together with your neighbour @Adge I hope you can enjoy her company despite the headache.

Not good about the loud music - it is both unsettling and disrespectful for it to be going on so late at night. I certainly hope it does not happen again tonight for you

Any news on your B today?

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@Adge Just checking in on you. Making sure you are okay. xxx

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Nice Nibblies with neighbour at my place @Zoe7 @Bunniekins

Yes loud music on a Sunday night is the worst - hopefully not.

The neighbours have finally woken up (about 45 minutes ago), & have turned their speakers (music back on).

I'm gona have to lie down (nap) now.

My Br is still in intensive care, probably will be for several days.

They sent him in for more surgeries (this morning). He's still sedated, not conscious yet.

Thanks.

Adge

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@Adge keep us posted my dear friend finch. xxxx

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