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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@Angels333 I agree.

Hope today went reasonably, but concerns aboutt kids are neverending

@Bunniekins Sorry you had that experience, it probably was not intended, but that does not change your feeling of hurt.

@eth

@Faith-and-Hope

@Zoe7 I hear you about the size of the forum. I guess we are lucky, but we were also the ones who took the risk and perservered with our own mental well being and giving to others. I dont think it was easy, back then either. Connection is vital, and yes being open to newcomers is important. I am exhausted and maybe not expressing myself well. WIsh I could take the sense of not mattering away. Change is difficult, but it sounds as if you are more under a cloud than is good. You have done great work on this site, and at school. You matter and what you have done has mattered. Hugs.

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A Big Hi and Good Morning to @Appleblossom @Mazarita @Angels333 @Faith-and-Hope @eth @Zoe7 @Adge @CheerBear @Angels333 and all I have missed and all who pass. Daughter on the mend 🙂 (thank god!). Son2 is doing well and walking all the way up the road to IGA by himself to do shopping for house which is fantastic :D. Wishing everyone a wonderful Tuesday. Love gpxxxx

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morning @Angels333 you sound like you have a lot of lovely support with your partner & church community which is great. I hope DBT and the gym went well & your symptoms are stable? I work in libraries. I've just started 2 new jobs so there's been a lot of learning but it's exciting too after 7 years of unemployment. Hope you have a good day today

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Good morning @Appleblossom @Mazarita @Angels333 @Faith-and-Hope @Zoe7 @Adge @CheerBear

@Ali11 @Owlunar @Sam3 @Sans911 @Ant7

@outlander @Shaz51 @frog @MDT @TAB @Exoplanet @Teej @Snowie @Former-Member @Doglover @BlueBay @oceangirl @Smc @eudemonism @Sophia1 @Hope4me @Gazza75 @TheVorticon @LooneyToones @Former-Member @Former-Member @Alone @Peri @Svety @PurpleKathy @Queenie @PeppiPatty

Hoping I haven't missed anyone who I've been chatting with or tagged by lately. Sorry if I have.

Special thoughts and wishes going out to @Former-Member

Saying hi to all of you here in case I don't have time this morning to reply individually to you all. And welcome to this thread to all who haven't seen it before. It's a social thread where you can also rave about what's going on for you, receive support and support others. And get to know some regulars.

I have a meeting with my coordinator of NDIS supports at 9 and then a support worker from 11.30 so won't be around as much until later today, depending on how the afternoon goes.

Hope today has started gently and that everyone's getting the support they desire from the forums at the moment. And that today goes smoothly according to plan.

Take good care all.

Edit : This seems like a good place to pop this in :

"it's not too late for people to have their say and all the info they need is in this thread: https://saneforums.org/t5/Forums-news-and-feedback/Help-us-make-the-Forums-even-better/m-p/712740#M4..."

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Thank you @eth. Have a great day 💐

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Good morning @eth @BryanaCamp @Bunniekins @Appleblossom @CheerBear @MDT I know there's so many more to tag, sorry if I missed you it's not intentional. I'm feeling much better than yesterday. I have a psychologist appointment today at 2pm and I'll spend some time writing down what I need to so I talk about the right stuff. I have to take son 2 to work in 10mins and @BryanaCamp you'll appreciate this daughter is off to the library to study. Really hoping for a better day than yesterday things still feel a bit shaky.

Hoping you all have a good day, I'll be around all day except for a few hours in the afternoon when I see my psych. I really need the conversation, it's crazy how often I check the forum.

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Good morning @Zoe7 sorry I missed tagging you before, I hope you're okay. I'm around all day if you missed my earlier post. Have an awesome day!

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Yea I'm really annoyed about the effects medication is having upon me. I'm talking about the full list of side effects, it's horrendous ...

I'm sick of being a test subject patient to all the professionals of the mental health services. And how do they solve their problems. They work. They get paid. And they buy what they need.

I've somehow gotta come up with the finances to get my car fixed by the mechanic.

The medication has screwed me up big time. It messes with my smoke and coffee use .and it literally messes up any chance of myself living a somewhat normal and healthy life .the side effects are with me 24 7 365 and I'm literally sick of it!

You know. . They're just willy nilly screwing with my entire life. Because it's their job and it's what they get paid to do??? Stuff that for a joke ...

I've been thinking recently. . My life is summed up, by saying, I've been the victim of a lie, and I've been the victim of gaslighting. ....

My most basic instinct of requiring my needs for myself... is impossible to make happen... you know...Work for a living ... buy the things i need... self actualize ... it's all turned into being system dependant... and it's heart breaking to deal with everyday... Because this means i become a subject to the influence of the system and they have control over me...

My truth, my reality, my story, my questions and answers ... my problems and solutions... it's all become irrelevant ... it's all been covered over with lies... it's all been taken advantage of ... my needs and wants ... its what my life should be about... but instead it's all been handed over to 'other people....'

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Thanks for the call-outs @Bunniekins @eth 👋💕

Good morning everyone .....

💜💐💕 @Former-Member .....

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Hi @eudemonism

I am so sorry you have had your whole life up-turned with the wrong medication and lies - that is more than unfortunate - bad enough about the medication - I am really reluctant myself to try any new medication - and lies - that has to be just damned serious - I have had some of that in my past from a toxic family member - I have cut her out of my life - we don't need that kind of thing happening - I am - once again - so sorry about that

We do need to self-actualise our potential - I had to look that up though I have known the term for a long time - it was interesting to read that psychologists have used the term for a long time and that the term means so many different things - how confusing that has been for me in the past but yes - we all need to feel okay about making the best use of our gifts and talents - all that we have already achieved - and do the best we can with this life for ourselves - I am pretty sure we are the only person who can really do that for ourselves - we are the centre of our own experiences after all

I wish better for you - professionals seem to have screwed with your life for whatever purpose in their own and they get paid - I hope you can get your car fixed - I hope the day turns out better

Sending best thoughts

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