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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Yes, swimming teacher for 18 years now. I teach from 2 yrs to 90! I specialise in adult teaching but for some reason I have suffered from the worst anxiety with my adult classes so just this term I swapped out for children's classes.

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@Angels333 @Shaz51 Hey ladies yes a burkini :). It is navy with a panel of stripes across the breast area 🙂 it is very modest 🙂 but I wanted to cover up the worst bits of my body so yes I am thinking that when it is raining or I want a change from walking that I will go swimming :).(there is a pool down the road from me so I have no excuse). @Angels333 being a swimming instructor do you get a few women wearing burkinis?

@Adge Adge sorry to hear that you are feeling unwell. Hoping that you get better soon. Thinking of you. pea

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hi @Angels333 I think it's really brave you went out to see old friends. I hope you enjoyed their company and I'm sure they enjoyed yours. Havea a good day today & take care. What are you up to?

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Good morning everyone. I hope it's a good day for you all. It's a bit cold and overcast here and I'm feeling moody.

Thanks for the encouragement @BryanaCamp . Yes the catch up with old friends went well, I visibly almost burst into tears when my friend asked whether or not I am working. But I held it all in and narrowly saved a socially awkward moment. Today I have the gym again and then DBT in the afternoon.

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Hi @Bunniekins Yes I see plenty of burkinis. No one minds, the majority of people don't care what someone else wears as long as it's proper swim wear.

I've taught countless women in burkinis and I really mean that countless! I've taught groups of women through a local refugee center classes that were women only.

So go out and be proud @Bunniekins I'm backing you.

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@Angels333 Thanks Angels333:)xxx

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Hi everyone @Appleblossom @Bunniekins @Angels333 @Adge @Shaz51 @Exoplanet @Teej @outlander @frog @CheerBear and anyone here who I've missed. Hope today is going smoothly for you all.

I haven't been around much coz our power has been playing up and was repaired this morning. Plus had to do a bit of research re NDIS stuff. My plan expires on Thursday and I don't know if I'll have the new one yet so I have lots of questions and anxieties about it. Totally preoccupied the last few days.

@Appleblossom Thanks for your wisdom regarding my possible reunion with J. Looks like he will come visit in a couple of weeks. Planning to stay somewhere local with him so I can easily come home if things get tricky, but really looking forward to being with him. He always makes me laugh with his great storytelling plus there are some good things to do here together.

I hear you about not feeling safe to engage socially very much - it's the same for me. Glad to hear you had some good moments at your gig last night.

@Bunniekins Nice to see you. Hope you have a heated pool to swim at, otherwise you're braver than me swimming at this time of year!

@Adge and @Shaz51 I really hope you start to feel healthier soon. Take care.

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Hi @eth wow, I hope it all goes well on Thursday re NDIS I am concerned for you being left not knowing what will happen, you deserve to be reassured.

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I hope it all goes well on Thursday re NDIS @eth

i have made a gp appt on wednesday to see what`s up my friend

mr shaz is not really happy about it

hello and hugs @Angels333 , @Mazarita , @Bunniekins , @BryanaCamp

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@Shaz51 @Mazarita @Angels333 @eth @BryanaCamp @Adge Hi and good morning to everyone :D. Just zooming by to wish everyone a super Tuesday :). eth I really hope the ndis get their act together for you... but am not surprised with what you have said as it seems a lottery to get the services that you need with the ndis. Adge and Shaz51 really hope you both start to get better soon. Love to all peaxxx:)

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