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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@eth Hi eth I hope you seel lots of whales and have fun with writing and bridge practice :). It is brisk this morning but at least it isn't pouring and glum like it was the last couple of days. I hope you have a lovely day with all your activities :). Love greenpeaxxx ps: I have been missing some notifications for a couple of days and noticed one of yours :o! gremlins in the sane forum again. Just wanted to let you know. :Dxxx

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Hey again @Bunniekins The beach was glorious - huge blown out surf, bright sun, and a yacht on the horizon. No whales!

Yes my notifications have been all over the place too. Not getting notified when I'm tagged a lot of the time but am getting notified of many threads that I haven't participated in. My settings are to only notify me when I am tagged. Wondering if this is happening to everyone? Can't remember the name of the thread where we're supposed to park these details - can you? @Former-Member

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HI @eth and others ☺️

The notifications issue is something we are still working on - I know it's been ongoing and very frustrating! Unfortunately it's linked to our platform provider so we are doing our best to work with them to get this resolved. We are keeping people updated here and you are welcome to share any further issues you have been having with it here but please do know we are aware and still working on it 👩🏼‍💻

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hi @saturnzoon I very much hope you have power on by now and are able to start enjoying your new place.

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Looks like it's been a quiet day on this thread today. Hoping people are faring well without too many difficult challenges along the way today. @Bunniekins @outlander @Shaz51 @Appleblossom @Zoe7 @Adge @Meowmy @CheerBear @Exoplanet @Teej @Faith-and-Hope @saturnzoon

Thursday night is always a bit empty for me so I'm wondering if anyone's around for a chat.

I'm working with several fairly big challenges at the moment and just managing to keep up with my activity comitments. In some ways it's good to be busy and some of the things I'm doing like the water tai chi twice a week really help take my mind off the dross and into a zen zone. But other things like the bridge feel more like hard work most of the time. My bridge partner is going away for 3 months in a couple of weeks so we're trying to practice twice a week, which means about 3 hours of revision plus about 3 hours playing each time. I know I shouldn't moan about what is essentially playing a game, but it's a huge challenge to comprehension, memory, concentration and other brain functions I've not exercised for many years. So I do know it's good for me, just struggle a bit with the level of comitment it requires. Wondering how I can keep up the learning while she's out of the country so I don't let her down when she gets back. I keep wondering 'are we having fun yet?'!

On top of that (well under it all) I'm running high anxiety about both my impending NDIS review (plan meeting next week) and also boofhead next door having checked himself out of rehab early and being back here. I spotted him in the vegie garden 4 days ago and seem to have been accelerated ever since. I was triggered strongly the instant I saw him. I've been clear with sil that I don't want contact with him and that is supported by her but I'm feeling vigilant about his presence. My bro is away for 10 days.

I think the latter issue is the one too many.

Then my psychologist cancelled again this week so instead of seeing her weekly in the build up to the review it will be 3 weeks between appointments.

And on top of everything else the news about what happened up north where I still have close friends really shocked me deeply. I've spoken to two of them. One of them hasn't been touched by it but the other one has. She's a member of the same tight-knit ethnic community as two of the victims. And one of the venues it all happened at is a place I know my ex still frequents. So I wonder about that too.

I managed to fill my mind with other things most of today, both here and offline. Spent the afternoon writing a story about an experience I had when I was 16. My bridge partner has offered to mentor me with my writing so I want to show it to her tomorrow. So I guess that kinda counts as a self-care activity. but in between every few moments the challenging issues take over my mind.

Hoping this isn't the start of hypomania, which I've avoided for 1 1/2 years, but it does feel like it might be. And if it is, hoping I can keep quiet about it and not have it jeopardise my new social connections.

That's my rave for now. Is anyone out there???

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I'm half here but not really @eth. Just wanted to send you hugs for all you have on. That's a lot happening for you.

❤

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Thanks @CheerBear Have a nice restful night. My lights fuse blew last night and keeps tripping out at the fuse box so I'm using a lamp that's not adequate for anything but this. Otherwise I'd use this energy to do some bridge revision as I'm having another practice tomorrow morning. Not sure if I'll sleep much tonight. Certainly don't feel at all like it just now.

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Can't talk much right now @eth but sending you my love and hope others here can connect with you tonight

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A timely find :

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I can imagine that being stuck without much else to do wouldn't be feeling so great for you right now, given how much you're thinking about @eth.

Do you like watching anything online or TV-ish? I'm watching a bonkers radio show live stream of breakfast radio presenters we sometimes catch, doing a 56 hour straight, no sleep, show. It's weirdly hard to put down.
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