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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Hi @BryanaCamp Lovely pictures.

My surgery wound has been largely healed up for a few weeks.

I've been back at work for 2 weeks.

There have been on-going complications, from my surgery.

Holes spontaneously appeared after removal of the staples, which then took weeks to heal up.

The surgeon thought I was in the all-clear, 3 weeks ago.

That's not the case - today a new hole spontaneously appeared (with a stitch in it).

Adge

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Good morning @Adge (sorry to hear that you are still being plagued by complications re surgery :(xxx) @Mazarita (hey girl I slept in this morning!!! high five :D) @BryanaCamp @CheerBear @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @eth @Exoplanet and all who pass by today wishing everyone a super pea Sunday. Yes the pea slept all tucked up in her pea pod this morning for 9 hours!!!!! Amazing aye! I feel so much better for it too I have to admit :). Back to walking tomorrow. Love greenpeaxxx

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Woooohooo @Bunniekins! How did it feel when you first woke up? On the very rare times I slept in during my worst run with early starts I'd wake really disoriented and kind of panicked. I always feel better for more sleep though, even if I wake feeling thrown by it. Hope it's a refreshed feeling day for you 🙂

Loved the photo @BryanaCamp. What a beautiful place! Is it far from you? Thanks for your encouragement with my work thing 🙂 I have been out of doing things like this for the last 2 and a half years and have found it so hard to reach a place where I am OK to do it. I reeeeally hope I'll be able to get into study again and finish my degree as I was very close to completing it when I had to give it away. Sorry to hear you have had so much trouble with work. What kind of work are you looking for (if you're up for sharing)?

Hugs @Adge and sorry you're still having trouble with your healing.

Waving hi to everyone @eth, @outlander, @Faith-and-Hope, @Shaz51 and all 👋

I had a great afternoon yesterday and really enjoyed catching up with a very chatty grandparent. They're huge on family history and ancestry and have collected incredible things from many generations before. They're at the age where they are thinking about what will happen with their treasures when they're no longer around. With my parent unwell, there is a little talk about certain family heirlooms needing to maintain their story through me (first born of a first born etc. for a number of generations). At their place yesterday I looked through an incredible 150+ year bible and heard some of its story.

I think I'm going to have to try and learn and then document the history of our family and some of these treasures soon, before both are no longer around to tell them. I don't know how I'll do it as they're not that close by and time to do it is tricky, but it feels important to do before It's too late. I might make it a bit of a mission in the next few months.

Feeling a bit feely this morning thinking about it all (hence the long post) but glad to have had the chance to do that yesterday.

Hope it's a day with good for all 🌈

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hi @Adge very sorry to here of your complications, that would make me very anxious. I hope you're not in pain? Sounds heroic that you're back at work, hope it is going ok for you.

hi @CheerBear I'm looking for library work, it's my background but hard to get back with no current employment. What's your area of study? sounds like you had a special day with your old person, I love family heirlooms & treasure them, they're irreplaceable & have so many fond memories attached.

thanks for your encouragement @Bunniekins , I've just had chocolate for lunch - trying to get a sugar buzz on so I've got energy to do a bunch of cooking - so I don't know about building muscles! hope you're having a good sunday.

hi @eth you must be over half way thru your house-sitting now? Did you manage to get to water tai chi

hope all on the thread are well today.

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I can imagine library work would be hard to get @BryanaCamp. I also imagine it would be the kind of job people might stay in for a long time too? Is volunteer work something you would be interested in looking in to? My study was in community services, then I went on to a social science degree. I had planned on doing my masters of social work. One day maybe 🤞

Looking for you @eth and hoping you are having a good day ❤

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Hello @CheerBear , @Mazarita , @BryanaCamp , @Bunniekins , @Adge, @eth

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@Former-MemberThe Notifications (Bell symbol) has been faulty (not working), all today.

It displays no notifications (stays blank), even when I click on it.

So I've had no way of knowing what anyone posted today - plus no notifications of anyone who's Tagged me into a thread (either).

Thanks.

Adge

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hello @Adge , yes been having trouble all day , yes we have been sticking to a few threads xxx

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Thanks @BryanaCamp Yes it has got me down, because everything was supposed to be healed up by now.

It's been a very long haul.

The Locum Dr yesterday afternoon, could not tell that stitches are sticking out (2 of them), when he poked me. I can definitely feel them with my finger.

So I'm left having to do further follow-up myself (again).

Adge

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@Adge that is not good , hope it heals fast xx

yes if you look at the latest posts you will see where the others are

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