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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@eth Good morning eth 🙂 have a great bridge lesson and time with your sw. Talk with you this afternoon. Love greenpea xxx

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Good morning @Bunniekins

Good morning everyone.

I like ordering clothes online too, yet I don't do it often.

Mainly I order orange jeans & shorts, that the shops don't stock.

Are your new clothes brightly coloured Greenpea?

Adge

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@Adge Orange jeans and shorts! that is wild Adge :). No my jeans are black and navy blue (slimming lol) and they have just arrived and fit well. Have put them in the wash and will hang them outside to dry :).

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hi @CheerBear glad you were able to get home safely & calm down, you must have good grounding skills.

No, I wasn't scared driving after the repair. I get very anxious getting car maintenance done as I don't like waiting for the call to say how much it costs & when it will be ready to pick up, I don't like the waiting and I don't speak "car" so it's hard for me. But once they said it was safe to drive & had no safety issues I felt fine driving. I'm sure you'll be fine too

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Lovely to hear about you walking by the bay. @Bunniekins

Last night I walked down a pier at an old haunt. Memories.

@Adge WOW I hang out with Orange people from time to time ... Have my share ...

Mostly prefer shopping irl ... sizes are a thing ...

Hello All

I hope today is the start of a good week @BryanaCamp @Mazarita @Bunniekins @Zoe7

and for you @Adge hope it is a better week. How is your surgery healing?

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hi @eth @Bunniekins @Faith-and-Hope @Adge @Zoe7

thanks for your support yesterday, I was so nervous about lunch. In the end I went with my instincts & told my male friend I just wanted to be friends. He was really nice about it and said friends are important especially when times get tough & he was happy to be friends. We had a really nice lunch and had lots to talk about, I enjoyed his company & got to know him a bit better and felt it really cemented the friendship. It couldn't have gone better, I feel really proud of myself for taking risks and working hard on developing my friendhips. It's been a rocky & triggery road at times. It's so nice to have soemthing happy to share here, thanks again for your support

Hope you are all ok today, will catch up with you.

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Hi @Appleblossom My tummy is still sore, maybe for some time yet.

Wound is all closed, which is good.

Home visit nurse will come for last time this morning, just to check on it.

My energy levels have not yet picked up (constantly exhausted) - which is a major issue, being scheduled to return to work next week.

I just don't feel up to it (at all) - I've been putting too much pressure on myself, trying to feel recovered (& ready to go to work).

Adge

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Hugs @Adge Glad wound has healed. Wishing you gentle recovery time so that you surprise yourself one day with a bounce in your step.

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That is awesome news @BryanaCamp So glad it worked out so well and you had a lovely lunch

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Not good about your energy levels @Adge especially with having to return to work next week. Hope you begin to pick up soon.

Hi @Appleblossom

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