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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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I'll be up super early on Friday to get your birthday thread organised @Adge and then will catch up with you all when I get home from work. I am looking forward to it too - been a while since we had a forum party

It is not good that your tummy is still sore but not surprising after having the infection as well. I know you are taking it easy and hopefully now that you are off all IV's that means it is all progressing okay.

I am off to bed soon so will say goodnight now. Will check in with you again tomorrow and hopefully there is good news that you will be home soon. Catch you tomorrow buddy

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Good night @Zoe7

Just when the kitchen staff came & booked me nice meals for tomorrow night - I probably won't be here to enjoy them.

It's probably a cost-cutting measure - keep them nil by mouth, then send them home.

Adge

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@eth I am interested to hear how your trauma writing workshop goes. I have not had luck getting into that yet, though I am on generally on the lookout for writing courses.

@Adge & days without food is tough. Glad that bit is over and def hope you are HOME for FF and a forum party. 50 is big.

@outlander @Bunniekins I also had tek troubles.

@Exoplanet Need to attend to the car too. Always needs attending ...

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Thanks @Appleblossom

It's so nice to have you forum people to have a party with.

I wish I could eat the party food, that it wasn't "virtual food".

On the Big plus side - I don't have to drive to an online party.

Very important - because I won't be able to drive for some time.

Adge

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Yep @Adge Gotta look on the bright side of life

Even when we are all cut up or feeling down.

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I have support needs for when I get home.

I will be unable to clean my house effectively for some time, & largely unable to prepare myself food - except to heat frozen meals up.

I went to great pains to ask to see the hospital social worker (2 days ago) - to get a hospital support package set up.

I was reminded to do this by several people, including my psychologist.

The social worker agreed to try - yet she was chased away by the nurses, who kept on disrupting out conversation.

The social worker never came back, even though she promised to.

So my efforts have come to nothing.

I do need that support, considering the disastrous consequences when I came home from hospital after my emergency bowel surgeries.

They just do not get that i have no support at home for recovery - & that I'm physically very weak.

Adge

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@Adge Gentle hugs for the finch. You are doing so well Adge.. I am so proud of how you are coping with it all. Hoping that each day brings you closer to a nicely healed finch without any more hiccups along the way. Love greenpea xxx

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@Adge Hi Adge you are definately not alone in having no one to help out with cooking, cleaning etc. If it happened to me I would be in exactly the same position as you. More and more people are alone these days, which is not always a bad thing btw but when it comes to situations like these it is very difficult. I am hoping that your hired help do their job properly for you and more so that the finch heals asap.xxxx

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Good morning to @Mazarita @Adge @Appleblossom @Zoe7 @eth @CheerBear @Exoplanet (I have 3 pairs of crocs which I love in assorted colours!!:p). Weather is only going to be 23 degrees today which is perfect! :)Will definately go for a walk and enjoy the change of season. Wishing everyone a wonderful day ahead. Lots of love greenpea xxxx

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Morning everyone 🙂

@Bunniekinshope you enjoy your cooler day today. I have turned the heater on for the first time in months this morning. It's cold here!

@Adgemore gentle hugs. Sorry to hear the support isn't coming through as it should 🙁 That's super tough. I hope today has more steps that bring you closer to home.

Hey @eth - missing catching you in real time but enjoying reading your posts and updates as they come in.

👋 to all

Other than a counselling appointment this afternoon, there is not much on for me today. I have house jobs (washing, gardening and supermarket) that are all in need of doing soon. I also want to do some more work on a blanket I'm making ( @outlander I'm still chipping away at it but it is slooooow!) so I think I'll do one of my to-dos and then spend some quiet time crafting today. I'm one kid down as they're off on a big adventure for a few days. It's amazing how much smoother, easier and quicker things run with 2 kids

Hope today has something that feels good for all ❤

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