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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Thanks @eth

I've been given the Green Light!

It's "Go Go Gadget Mobile" for next Wednesday 6th of March.

The Anaesthetist Dr was lovely - I even joked with her about "Getting rid of my Beer Belly" (when I never drink beer).

She said I might want to go to the beach in bathers "to show off my new flat tummy"...

She said I'm a "professional at this surgery stuff" (this being my 4th) - & that I would even know how to "anaesthetise myself" by now...

Adge

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@eth You have so much going on Hon but it is great to hear. You are certainly going outside your comfort zone and it is wonderful to read all that you are doing - and all that with the major works going on at your place Keep doing what you are doing because it seems to be working well for you. I hope you get to the International Women's Day event and the Writing Trauma one as well - both are interests of your and you should not miss them if you can get by with the limited money you have. Goodluck with it all

@Adge That is such wonderful news - I am so happy that it is all going to go ahead for you. It is such a major operation but will give you back so much also - my thoughts will be with you that it all goes well and the recovery time is not too long - super happy for you Adge

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Thanks @Zoe7 I may be able to bend in my middle better again!

Or do cartwheels (maybe not)....

It will be my 50th Birthday (on March 15th), about 5 days after I come out of hospital.

No Birthday celebration is planned with anyone (in person).

Hopefully I can celebrate here with everyone.

Adge

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Oh @Adge It's party time - I will organise a party thread for you - you need to celebrate such a milestone and any excuse here for a party hey Hopefully the operation goes really well and you are beginning to recover by your birthday. The great thing about a forum party is you don't need to do anything but read and type - so an easy day for you. It will be even better if you can bend on your birthday - what a great present to have - hernia gone and bending your stomach - happy days!

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Good morning @Bunniekins What is on the agenda for you today?

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@Zoe7 Hi Zoe7 🙂 and good morning! Happy Friday to everyone :D! I promised my daughter a walk and a visit to our local coffee shop :). It has been a super busy week for the pea so a nice day doing nothing would be great as this weekend will be busy again.

What plans do you have today?

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It sounds like a nice relaxing day planned @Bunniekins before a busy weekend. I have work but it is Athletics Carnial day so will be out in the heat for part of the day. Hopefully it is not too bad but expecting mid 30s later today. I have some testing to do with the 1/2s before I leave so will only be t the crnival for half of the time. Tonight I am planning to go to dinner with some work colleagues. My sister is lending me the money to go so I can actually enjoy myself knowing I can afford it.

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@Zoe7 Oh Zoe7 I am so happy that your work is turning out so well for you :D. That is the joy of working the chance of opening up social situations outside of the work environment. Your sister sounds lovely. You obviously have a great relationship with her which is so nice to hear. Have a great day, stay cool and out of the heat as much as possible and more so have a wonderful time tonight :)xxxx

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Thanks @Bunniekins I am hoping I have a good time too - not planning on a late night though - the others are planning on going out after dinner but I will want to come home to my babies, I don't drink and can't take noise so heading out to a bar or club would be too mch for me.

I better go and get ready for work now. Thank you for the morning chat little pea. Hope you have an awesome day Hon

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@Zoe7 You too xxx

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