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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Yes it is Good news @Zoe7 Thanks.

I will have frozen meals to heat up etc.

Perhaps my neighbour might text message me, to see how I'm going (on occasion).

No-one to visit me, when I come out of hospital.

The nurses will have to come to change the dressings on my surgery wounds - that's what was arranged the last few surgeries (when I came home).

So I imagine that will have to happen this time too - because the staples will still be in my tummy, for at least 1 week after I come home.

Hi @Appleblossom I've had to take Gastrostop occasionally (sometimes several times a week), for the past 4 years or so.

I have Irritable Bowel Syndrome, caused by the surgeries - the doctors & dieticians told me to keep on taking it.

I've been taking probiotics every day, for the past 3 & 1/2 years - because having bowels disconnected (with stoma & bag) for 6 months, killed off all the good bacteria (gut flora).

The surgeon said to stop taking any probiotics or fish oil tablets, 2 weeks before surgery - so I did stop. He said that they thin your blood (maybe slow down healing wounds), so I'm not taking them now.

Adge

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@Appleblossom 👋 ❤

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@outlander @Mazarita @Adge @Appleblossom @Zoe7 @eth @Exoplanet @CheerBear and everyone I cannot believe we are at Thursday already! Tomorrow is Autumn!!!! horray!!! change of seasons will great am so looking forward to it. Wishing everyone a fabulous last day of Summer hoping it is a good one for all :)xxxx

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Morning @Bunniekins and all 👋

Did Autumn seem to creep up on anyone else?! Summer will go out with some heat happening here over the next few days. There's already quite a bit of warmth in the breeze but it feels really pleasant at the moment 🙂

Hope today has some good in it for everyone ❤

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Morning @Bunniekins @CheerBear @Mazarita @eth (wondering how your going?) @Appleblossom @Faith-and-Hope and all passing through

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Hi Everyone @CheerBear @Bunniekins @Adge @Zoe7 @outlander @Exoplanet @Shaz51 @Appleblossom @Faith-and-Hope and anyone else dropping by here today.

Hope your ap't is going really well @Adge and that you can still have your surgery soon. The waiting must be awful, I feel for you.

I started a new med for insulin control and weight loss this morning. Just now feeling a bit light headed and queasy, hope it passes quickly. So I'm not up to responding individually at the moment.

I've had a really busy time this week - bridge monday, tai chi and then smoking cessation counselling tues, turned up at psychologist wed morn to find they had cancelled my regular bookings for no apparent reason so I didn't get to see her, then psychiatrist afternoon, and lots of admin stuff at home in between times. Have now got a support worker for an hour before and after bridge so the transport anxiety will ease (had to do all the bookings online this morning), and am arranging another one for every 1st tuesday of the month so I can go to the writers centre reading nights. Also had to take the car in for rego inspection this morning. Checked all my scripts, updated my diary, spoke to a support organization, left a message for the psychologist. My coordinator of supports is still not satisfied with a report that took months to get - super frustrating.

And have arranged to have a practice bridge game between lessons with a lovely lady who will pick me up and take me to her house to play tomorrow morning. So I have to review my class notes sometime today.

Have another lady from tai chi who transports me friday so I can do a 2nd tai chi class for the week.

Then another support worker for 3 hours on Saturday.

And in the background of all this, there are major works happening in the yard outside my cabin that start at 7 am daily. Tuesday excavation of a massive hole, Wednesday pool was delivered - 10m by 4m and brought in over the main house roof by crane! More earth works backfilling around the pool today.

SHEEEEESH!!!!

So today is meant to be my rest day, but it sure doesn't feel like it. Seeing it all written here makes it more obvious why I'm feeling somewhat swamped.

There are also a couple of one-time workshops coming up that I'd like to book for. Can't really afford them with my CTP and rego due in 2 weeks, but they are too good to miss. One is on International Womens Day, a craft workshop and morning tea, and the other is a full day on 'Writing Trauma' that's part of the writers festival. The 2nd one feels like a 'must do' thing. I have wanted my writing to flow again for ages, and in recent times most of my writing has been trauma related anyway. Will be good to hear what the teacher has to offer and do some exercises and readings on the day.

Life has changed so much since a few weeks ago. I am consistently pushing outside my comfort zone and things keep falling nicely in to place. But I definitely need to pause for breath at times.

Thanks for the tags everyone who did so. Missing out on real time chats this week but sending best wishes and warm hugs to all.

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Hey Long Ravers

Hope you are well

@eth @Mazarita @outlander @CheerBear @Bunniekins

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Hi @Appleblossom you've been in my mind today with all the media happening atm. Hoping you are feeling ok. Here to support you if you want.

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Thank you @eth

I am tired but alright.

As I said to some waiting young men yesterday.

"Cant feel triumph or elation", just quiet observing and a sense of this is as it should be.

Its all too sad and terrible it was normalised, while normal sexuality was treated so confusingly within the church.

It is nice you notice me. I appreciate your thoughts.

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@Exoplanet

too hard to express stuff at the moment...

wanted you to know that I love the fact that you tag me now and again...

stunning pictures....

looks like a sanctuary...

stay safe 💜

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