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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Thanks @Zoe7 You too

Adge

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@Adge Just signing in to see if you are ok? Read your previous message and am concerned about my friend finch.

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Just saw your post @Adge and that is some tough stuff to be dealing with. Flashbacks are difficult to deal with and can completely take over our whole lives when they are happening. Very much feeling for you @Adge.

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Hi & Thanks @Bunniekins & @Zoe7

Yes, I rarely have visual flashbacks, usually just intense emotional flashbacks - apparently common with CPTSD, from childhood & events long ago.

These were very real, relatively recent events (about 4 to 6 weeks ago) - & very unpleasant to remember.

It's me "processing stuff", often weeks after something happened - it seems to take that long (sometimes), for it to "sink in".

I'm okay thanks, I'm not liking what I'm remembering....

Adge

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@Adge xxxx am here if you want to talk about it if that helps. If not am here just to talk 🙂

I have some good news am off to the movies tonight with son2 to see Clint Eastwood's movie The Mule :). Have you heard of it? I figure if Clint is directing it and acting in it it will be excellent.

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Seeing as what you are experiencing now with the flashbacks happened quite recently it is no wonder you are feeling as you are @Adge That processing time is different for all of us so go easy on yourself while you are going through all this today. Hopefully for you this won't be an ongoing thing and it is your mind helping it to 'sink in'. Either way it is tough to be dealing with - do you have support to help you through this?

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Hi @Adge

Sorry to hear about your nightmares and flashbacks.

Kangaroo MobJust a distraction pic. Hoping you are getting better.

Hey @Mazarita Hearing you about the sweating and I live in a much cooler climb.

@Zoe7 @Bunniekins @CheerBear

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Hi @Appleblossom How are you travelling today?

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Hi @Bunniekins I hope you enjoy your movie - that one's too tense for me (suspense or thriller), even though I like Clint Eastwood.

Goto lie down, have a rest.

It's very hot here - I just cleaned & re-stocked my aviaries & cages, in the heat.

Would love to chat later (shortly), but you might be gone by then.

Thanks @Zoe7 These recent events were definitely traumatising - they also "tied into" or "re-triggered" past traumas.

My "relatives" intentionally undermined my own independence (in my own house) - claiming that they "had a plan", & that they knew "what was best for me".

They refused (when I asked them many times), to tell me what their plan or intentions were.

I am very independent, I need a lot of personal space.

I have lived independently interstate, & away from my relatives (family or origin) for more than 24 years - for very good reasons.

My family childhood, adolescent, & young adult environment - was the cause & source of several decades of traumatic experiences.

Yet denial Reigns - they don't acknowledge or own virtually any of that.

Journal writing is my main outlet at the moment

I don't have any other outlets for it - except to phone a support line, if necessary.

Adge

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Lovely picture @Appleblossom Good distraction...

Did you draw it yourself?

Adge

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