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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Great to see you too, @Bunniekins.

How are you this morning? Is a walk on the cards?

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So true about how many of us there might be who are so good at putting on effective social masks, while struggling with craziness inside ourselves. Sometimes I think it might be that I am too proud to let people know the real me. It's been said to me before that I conceal a lot about myself from other people in the real world. It depends on the situation though. In some cases, I talk very openly about my struggles with mental illness. That certainly does help me feel less alone with it, even more so the space and friendship here on the forum that allows us to be more real about what's going on in our lives.

Thanks for your interest and curiousity about my creative stuff. Means a lot to me.

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Only just saw the message above @Mazarita. I think the real you would be a pretty great to know you (you are a pretty great to know person!). I can see how pride might come in to wanting to conceal the inside you at times. I wonder how much not wanting to show that inside you plays in to your anxiety around social situations.

I think I'm afraid of letting go of my mask at times as it keeps me in control of myself in a way. By allowing myself more freedom to outwardly be how I can be inside, I worry it would kind of be giving myself free rein to be bananas. For me it maybe is less about the fear of others and more a fear of myself 🤔 Love the food for thought that often pops up during sunrise cuppas here 🙂

Thinking you might be offline now as the sun has well and truly made her way up. Getting a morning message from you and your company has been a great start to my day. Hoping the day goes well for you, me and all from here ❤

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Hi @CheerBear, no worries about the delay in response. I see now that I didn't tag you in that message. In any case, I fell asleep in the armchair between posts, have only just awoken again. So I wasn't waiting, but it could well have been you if I'd tagged you as I intended!

Better head back to bed now. So great to see you again this morning.

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Good morning @Mazarita @CheerBear @Bunniekins

Even if I missed the moment, it's really nice to read your extended chat this morning Maz and CB and get a better sense of what's going on for you both. Maz it feels like you're a powerhouse of creativity at the moment. That must feel so much better than when you were sleeping 18 hrs a day, even if you're not getting that much sleep now. Sometimes the first few weeks of an upswing my thinking is that I've plenty of sleep 'banked' from the long periods of sleeping more overall (or in my case at least being in bed for up to 13 hours just to get 8 or 9 hours of sleep and then being groggy the first few hours of the day.)

A couple of days ago I got out my writing journal in anticipation of the creative writing workshop I want to do, but I haven't even opened it yet. Really hoping the workshop will kickstart me again. It was scheduled for next Monday but they say they haven't got the numbers they need so it's likely to be postponed.

CB hope your day is peaceful and pleasant with the kidlets. They sound like they have plenty of fun things to do even when you need to stay at home and take it easy.

@Bunniekins I was posting those pics earlier for @Adge who wanted some ideas about what guy hippies wear. Looking back, most of them are totally cliched and out of date, but a few of them more up to date. I got on a roll posting them and found a few that were total eye candy to me.

Hope the day is starting nicely for you both as well, and anyone else passing through here today - hope any plans come to fruition and that those who need time out get it.

Thinking of you in particular @outlander - hope your foot is improving and that you're not too inundated with the kids in these last couple of weeks of school hols.

I slept in til nearly 10 after taking a prn when I was up earlier. Still in fits and bursts, but more of them than usual. No plans for today. I've been realizing that when I first started having the support workers 3 days a week it was huge for me, the busiest I'd been for some years, but now that I'm in the swing of it I don't need 4 days a week at home doing virtually nothing. On here and fb all morning and then tv all afternoon most of those days. Becoming aware that I could probably handle sws another 2 days of the week and looking for activities in the community to join. So I've asked for extra support when I saw my coordinator of supports on Friday. At least a half day on Mondays so I can go to learn bridge each week and possible some hours on a friday as well, maybe a 2nd tai chi class. Plus some occasional one-off days for things like the writing workshop or an art workshop at the womens centre that's coming up. I still want to keep Thursday free after psychologist on Wednesdays and Sunday free to maybe do something with family. So that's my rave for today ....

Again, best wishes to all for a satisfying day xxx

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Those Hippie outfit (clothes) pictures were great.

Thanks @eth I loved the colours, floral patterns & styles etc.

The one thing I cannot easily do is grow or have long hair - which seems to be a compulsory hippie thing.

Long hair on women is great, very attractive.

The one or two times (in my entire life) that I've ever tried to grow my hair even a tiny bit longer - I've got so annoyed with it, that I've cut it straight off again.

I've had "crew cuts" (no.4 with clippers) my entire life - a hard habit to break.

Adge

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A very good morning to @Adge@Mazarita@eth@CheerBear@CheerBear@TAB@Exoplanet@Sophia1 (who I am missing) and everyone 🙂

Eth I just wanted to say a big thankyou about getting me hooked on Harrow I am now addicted to this show :D. Will be finishing off the 1 series today. Looking forward to you future recommendations. Love greenpea xxxx

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Morning @eth @CheerBear @Mazarita @Bunniekins ans everyone

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Good morning all. Hope today has started nicely for you all. Too many for me to tag today but you know who you are!

@Adge long hair is not compulsory!!! A big aspect of 'hippiedom' is being free and comfortable, whatever choices you make. @Mazarita might like to join this conversation too. Hi @Mazarita!!

@Bunniekins glad you've enjoyed it. I'm pretty sure there'll be another series.

Heading out with SW again to water tai chi today. Always look forward to it. have another hour or so after that that I haven't planned yet.

Hi to you too @outlander Hope things are going better for you and that your foot is healing. Heading off-line now but hope to chat in the near future.

Have a good day all xx

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Good morning @Bunniekins (my phone wanted to call you 'green tea' then 😆), @outlander, @eth and all.

Hope water tai chi is as feel good for you as usual eth and the day has started well for everyone.

❤ to all 🙂
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