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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Glad water tai chi has started up again for you @eth I am really needing to get back in the water but I must admit the break has been good too - had a break from appointments and the pool (as the pool has been close or I have been working) so getting back into that routine for a couple of weeks would be good. I will need to go to the pool at different times when I am back at work though - so something else for me to think about. Still no news about the school I will be at but HR only comes back this week so hoping I will hear something next week (but nt holding my breath there either). I will send off an amail next week to check in on how the process is going.

Great that you have your support worker today too - hoping you do get to the beach for lunch - it would be a lovely thing to do today. It is a gorgeous day here - I am heading out to Bunnings soon to check out what I need and then will take the trailer out this afternoon or tomorrow afternoon if they have what I need.

@CheerBear I hope you enjoy the kid free days and your time with friend - having some alone time together will be nice for both of you

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Looking forward to seeing him when he finishes work later tonight @eth. He's great around the kids and heaps of fun but alone time is good too 😊

Thanks also @Zoe7. Hope you enjoy Bunnings. I'm heading to Spotlight today. Sounds like we both have fun shop trips planned 😁

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We are both going to our favourite stores so of course it will be a fun shopping trip @CheerBear I am going to have an early lunch first as I didn't have breakfast. Still very tired but trying to get myself moving. My sister came around and helped move some things I couldn't do on my own so next step is get the area in the garage cleaned up and begin the wall - the sheeting can then be put straight onto the frame when I get it.

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Great to hear sister came around and you managed to get some things done early @Zoe7.

I read 'lunch' and looked at the time with a 😮 face. My day has flown already so I better get moving so I have plenty of time to oooh and ahhh over yarn kid free 😁

Hope it's one with lots of good for all ❤

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Hi @eth I didn't know there was a water Tai Chi.

I hope it goes well, & is enjoyable.

Another long dental appointment for me today.

Plus other appoinments, & need to do a lot of grocery shopping.

Adge

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Hi @Zoe7 and @CheerBear hope you both had fun shopping trips and are feeling inspired. Have fun tonight CB!

Hello @Adge hope the dentist wasn't too hard to handle and that you're feeling better now that it's over.

Hi to anyone else around at the moment.

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Hey @eth and thanks. I have my new project with me at the moment 🙂 Friend still a few hours away.

How was your day? Did you get to the beach?

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Hey @CheerBear What's the new project? Water tai chi was great - it really puts me in a zen state that lasts for a while afterwards. Took a snack to the beach afterwards for 1/2 hr or so - the breeze was beautiful and watching the waves. Tomorrow the same sw takes me to the psychologist and after that we plan to walk the 'break wall' between the harbour mouth and the beach and then maybe have a swim.

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I'm trying out a new pattern that will hopefully end up as a lamb @eth. It's part of a set of long bodied, long armed doll kind of things. They're a bit cute and kind of quirky and I like the look and shape of them.

So good that you see the benefits of water tai chi and that you enjoyed the beach after it. I remember not too long ago, you were having a bit of trouble finding things to do with your sw. How are you finding it now?

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Didn't end up going to Bunnings @eth - once I pulled the temporary tarp down I had up in the garage I reaslised I also had to move some shelves to get to the edge of the wall. It is a bigger job than I realised at first so still moving things and cleaning up the area. I will need a couple more days to get it all ready as I have DBT and appointments tomorrow. Hoping still to get to Bunnings after that tomorrow and then start on Thursday again. I need some timber to do some extra framing as some of what is already there needs replacing - more expense I really can't afford but now I have started it t needs to be finished. Hoping for no rain or strong winds for a few more days yet.

Hope you have had a god day - haven't read all posts yet so will do that now.

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