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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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How long is no-one else around there for @eth? Cool changes after hot days are the best! The other day we hit close to mid 40s here before the temp dropped something like 20° within an hour. The changes are too extreme here sometimes but that one was very welcome. I'm now in slipper boots, flannel pj bottoms, a jumper and a dressing gown. Hard to imagine that we were melting only the day before yesterday.

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Similar drop in temps here overnight too @CheerBear Lol rigging up in cold weather gear. Not quite that cool here, but almost cardigan weather. Still a bit warmer in the cabin than it is outside. No cuppa for me yet as I'm still hoping to get a bit more sleep. Any plans for today?

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Not really any plans @eth. I havent been feeling well over the last two days and it's made it hard to plan much. The crew will probably want to/should probably get out and about today though so I'll have to find something for them that won't take too much more out of me.

How about yourself?

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@CheerBear my uncle will visit, possibly early afternoon, so I need to clean up the cabin a bit - floor and dishes and maybe washing clothes. It's always quite intense with him, especially one to one. The others should get back late afternoon I think.

What about taking the kids to the movies? Hoping you start to feel better soon.

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Hi @Appleblossom nice to hear from you too. Hoping the cool change has arrived where you are.

Hey @Adge to be honest with you I was totally relieved when the last of my teeth were removed. I'd had several years of gradually losing them since they were cracked at the roots during a dv incident. Walking out of the dentist that day all I could think was at last I'd never have to go through abcesses and extractions ever again. At one stage years ago a dentist told me off for sucking on fishermans friends every time I had a ciggie - said I'd been bathing my teeth in sugar. So I changed to sugar-free mints and still use them. Can't have chewing gum any more tho' as it sticks to the dentures.

Hoping all who pass here are travelling gently this morning and that I haven't missed any tags.

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Will your uncle be there for a while @eth? It is tricky with company that's intense for too long.

Movies is great but pricey with all of us so we'll probably only do one these holidays and I'd like to save it for when we reeeally need a trip out (as in they are full of cabin fever). I also have a bit of a muddled up one who is struggling to go out where it is too loud or busy. They had some hiccups at the movies last time and wanted to leave half way through, which left me with a big dilemma with two who didnt want to leave. I need to be in a place where I am well prepared to deal with whatever they (the two younger ones most likely) might hiccup over and I'm probably not there today. Maybe a walk/ride around the park. As much as I feel like rubbish, i know walking and moving around can help.

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@CheerBear Just had a message from uncle saying he won't be here today after all. Kinda relieved and it means I can have a me-day.

Going to the park sounds like a good idea. The kids can play to their heart's content and you can mostly just relax and watch while they do their thing.

Dogs seem to settling down now so I might catch some more zzzs soon.

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Yes I live in Tassie @Exoplanet and I love where I live. I would recommend anyone to come visit our beautiful state - there is so much to see and do but also a very quiet place to live - where everything is so close to the city.

My sister has a bulldog and he gets puffed out just like your dog - he is prone to overheating (part of the breed) but he is good at drinking when he needs to in order to cool down.

Hope you finally got some sleep last night - I had trouble getting to sleep last night myself but got up for a while a the second time was asleep rther quickly.

Hope you and @Mazarita @CheerBear @eth @Adge and everyone else on this thread has a good day today

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Hi @Zoe7 how are you today?

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Hi @eth I am actually feeling okay despite not such a great night. I think it is because I am excited that my garage roof will finally get done today. It means I can get the garage sorted afterwards and that is something I have been looking forward to doing for over a year. It will take a few days to get everything done after the roof is finsihed but it will be worth it as I will have everything finally sorted and safe out of the weather. Presently the roof leaks and I have all my tools and electrical things stacked in one corner of the garage - hard to get to things when I need then so it is going to be great to have them all stored on shelves rather than on top of everything in the corner.

Need to do quite a bit of moving of stuff to get to the roof but my sister and her partner are going to come and help with all that too.

Going to be a long day for me here but a productive one.

How are you going? Haven't resd all of back posts this morning!

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