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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Beautiful with the gift giving, @CheerBear. Pjs with a daschund sound unique! A crochet doll that somehow becomes a succulent plant sounds... magical? How did you do it?!

Wondering how unwell one and well one went yesterday, if that's where you were. Thinking of them with care and kind feelings.

Today I will most likely get back into the video stuff. Itching to continue with the soundtrack on one of them, which I've built up to a good first draft, and now to the next stage. Music and voice is often something I start with on a project, before the images. I might even start getting to them too today.

Aside from that, I plan to wash C's new black sheet set for him. My navy blue ones are on the line at the moment, taking up all the room from washing them on arrival home last night. Low tide is at 5.30pm. Would be nice to get out for a walk if I can tear myself away from the video at that time. Given we've just had summer solstice, it will still be daylight enough to do that. Not sure what else at this stage.

How about you?

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Woohoo!!! @Mazarita and @CheerBear Looks like we're all here in real time xx

Will just leave this hear in case either of you is heading off.

Will write about yesterday shortly.

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Good morning, @eth. Just spotted you around.

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Unwell one and well one had hiccups @Mazarita, with unwell one really struggling at times. They think this will be their last Christmas and that's very tough for them, on top of not being able to do what they'd like including joining in with outdoor games (even walking around the house is very hard and requires a frame). That part of the day was a bit hard but I tried to focus on the good of the day. Thank you for your thoughts ❤

Today sounds like a good day for you and maybe one you can take at your own pace 😊 We have more of the same today with people, cricket, a BBQ and probably some games.

@eth good morning! I was just thinking of you wondering how your day was as I went looking to see if you'd posted. Hoping things with your mum went OK and wondering how she is as the last I read she looked to be needing hospital. Hope you are going OK ❤

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Lovely to 'see' you both @Mazarita @CheerBear Your days each sound quite lovely with spending time with loved ones and the joys of giving and receiving wonderful gifts.

My day was pretty full on but I got through it with only one overwhelmed and weepy part. And the gifts given and received here were a total pleasure too. More on that in another post. We had 13 people and 3 dogs here for brunch late morning and the big feast about 4pm that continued til after 8 pm. I'm still full to bursting point!

Not surprisingly, Mum's blood pressure went through the roof early morning and didn't come down with meds that she has both daily and prn so bro and I spent a couple of hours with her at emergency dep't of a local hospital. Who gave her no treatment and told her to enjoy her holiday! Didn't stop her from being her usual inappropriate and invasive self the rest of the day.

Best post this now as I don't want to miss you both.

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@eth, sorry to hear there was a weepy overwhelmed moment, but glad it doesn't seem to have detracted from your day. A weird interlude taking mum to hospital in the midst of it. Were you okay with them giving her no treatment? I'm guessing her BP must have been pretty high for you to go to emergency.

Wonder what the gifts were (how superficial, lol). 13 people and 3 dogs - no wonder there was a moment of overwhelm! It would have been a bit much for me under normal circumstances.

@CheerBear, glad to hear you were able to focus on the brighter parts of the day, though your ones with the health challenges had some difficulties. Your today sounds enjoyable, as a fun wind down from the full excitment of yesterday.

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Hugs for you @eth with some of the tricky of yesterday. How long do you have left with your mum there? I too am wondering what your gifts were 😁

@Mazarita I meant to say that the doll I made has 'hair' that is succulents (one spiky kind of one with little flowers and one curly long one that drapes down the side) and a long skirt. The skirt folds inside out to become a 'pot' hiding her torso and head and making it look like a plant. Sounds way more complicated than it actually is haha. I bought a pattern for it to add to my collection as I loved it.

Today will hopefully be a nice wind down one for us 🙂

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@CheerBear, still sounds like a very magical crochet doll / pot plant to me! Your craft skills are galactic!

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Thanks @Mazarita. I sometimes dream up what I would make for people here if I could and would love to and wish I could make something to send to you. I think I'd try and do some kind of lap blanket to have on your arm chair, in deep purples and greens (I've already created it in my mind and sent it to you in my head 😉).

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Received with joy in my head too, @CheerBear. Deep purples and greens, sounds awesome! Two of my favourite colours (can't pick just one!)

So glad I've run into you and @eth this morning.

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