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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Hope your headache eases soon @Mazarita. I've seen what a wonderful support you can be on here.

Sounds like you've earned a day at home. The shopping centres seem so busy already. Well done you for handling it. Nice gift for C and nice that you got some summer dresses for you. I'll be shopping online for the kidults and grandkiddies too. Adult child has sent me some links to what they want that I haven't looked at yet. Should get onto that today so that there's time for delivery before the big day.

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Sorry to hear you've woken up feeling not so great this morning @Mazarita. Glad you have a quieter day ahead to hopefully help with that. So good to hear you did what you needed yesterday and you found C's gift easily! That's always a win 🙂 I'm slowly making my way through looking around online for things this morning and found some decent sales on (win there too).

I'm going to head out to my appointment. Nice bumping into you Mazarita and chatting this morning @eth.

❤ for the rest of the morning/day

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Sorry for the delay, @eth. I wrote a longish post about xmas stuff. Then when I went to post I found my net connection has gone down. I'm on mobile data on my phone now, which is always so terribly slow, so it's taking me ages to post this one too now! I think I probably need to sign off for now as it's too hard to have a chat like this. Sorry we couldn't talk more, but glad to have met up briefly in real time. Have a peaceful, relaxing day. ox

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@eth It felt lovely and calming to read your posts and preparations.

For me 25 is not a good day as it is also an anniversary, plus complicated byreligious positives and negatives. I keep it quiet and small with extra nice food.

@Mazarita @CheerBear @Exoplanet

Have a good day.

I have a strange appointment where I was approached on fb by a disability employment services company and an orchestral rehearsal.

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Hope your appointment went well @Appleblossom and that they are helpful and all above board.

I've had nearly all the last 16 years of Christmases alone before moving here, so I did the same as you - quiet time with yummy special foods. Sharing this time of year feels good so far - I've been here now since Christmas eve 2016 - hard to believe it's nearly 2 years already.

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Dear @eth

I remember your anxiety before the move. SO glad it has worked out well for you.

The outcome of appointment is yet to be seen as their computer program did not let them make next appointment 4 weeks into the future ... not the workers fault, but I spotted a few more planning issues,

1) including freezing the staff and consumers, by ridiculous level of cooling, that seized up my neck but luckily did not put it out

2) including intimidating abusive paragraphs re Centrelink in standard letter for appointment. They apologised and said it was for under 34s. Well they need to change the settings on their automatic letters. It was very counterproductive for what the organisation is mandated for.

3) The place I was supposed to sign was clogged up an irrelevancy so I had to draw a line on form to separate it out as I felt I would have been signing falsely.

Jeez ... the modern work place.

Eye roll.

Going to orchestral rehearsal tonight. Always beautiful. I have always preferred the process to the final product anyways ...

Take Care All who pass through ...

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Gee @Appleblossom No. 2 in particular would have me running a mile. Are you actually wanting more employment or is this something you are obliged to do at this time?

Have a lovely evening.

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It is not an obligation for Centrelink, it is just my inner compulsions, to always do my best, and I had a few ideas, then was putting self down for making a rod for my back, which I seriously do not need.

They admitted they targeted people like me in their online ads on fb. Maybe cos I had liked lots of Mental health disability type pages ... you know those algorhythms work a bit ...??

Thanks for caring @eth I need to stay connected here as otherwise I would be a sucker for everything.

Will see how it pans out.

The form said it should not effect my entitlement to DSP so in the best of all possible worlds, a few hours per week of non disabling work could be good .... raising hands in air ... who knows ...

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Best of luck with it @Appleblossom. You're brave to give it a go.

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Morning all

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