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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Good morning @Mazarita and @outlander Seems I've gotten lucky and popped in at the same time as both of you.

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@outlander, good that you have a couple of craft projects to carry you through to the new year.

I'm going pretty well, aside from not enough sleep lately. I've been making up to some extent for what I've lack overnight, by napping during the day sometimes. Still having a pattern of sleeping for only about two hours at a time, then waking and finding it hard to get myself back to sleep. Enjoying those quiet night time hours again though, and the dawns.

Quiet day here. But I've got heaps happening again with my video and related projects, so probably a fair bit of time on the computer. Enjoying having something very engaging to occupy myself with again. Enjoying the increased feeling of self-confidence now that I am back into the swing of it again. I had a very difficult experience with one project a little while ago, but getting through that, I seem to have learned something from it that is helping me move forward in an even better way now.

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Hi @eth, good to see you.

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So good to hear about the progress you've been making lately @Mazarita. I've been following a bit on other threads lately but mostly just observing.

Heading to Tai Chi with my sw within the hour, then a little shopping then a few chores to do in readiness for my visitors tomorrow for the night. Really looking forward to seeing my mate C and meeting her new girlfriend. Cleaning the glass on the cabin (there's lots of it) this afternoon and then cooking spag bol to share tonight.

Are you video-ing today?

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Sounds like your friend's visit has really got you going with domestic stuff, @eth. I often have found that people coming to visit has motivated me more in that way too. Seems like you've got a good day ahead. Spaghetti bol, yum. I know it's not exotic, but Italian is my favourite cuisine, and that is a classic.

I will be getting to some more work on video and related projects when I'm ready today. First I'm going to give myself a passive entertainment break after a big day of work on that stuff yesterday. Planning to settle in for an hour of 'Frasier' in about 15 minutes.

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Bugger i got to go but will be back @Mazarita @eth

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Hope your day goes well @outlander

Yes @Mazarita especially this visitor. When she stayed at my place up north while I was away one time she did a deep clean and commented about it afterwards. Meaning well but still ..... so I want to feel good about how things look while she's here. And it's a good excuse to do a better clean up before guests are staying here over the silly season too.

Enjoy your relaxation time with Frasier. You seem to be balancing self care and productivity really well at the moment.

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Thanks, @eth. I am feeling mostly okay, though keeping an eye on the less sleep pattern, and also the much higher productivity I'm having with the videos at the moment. Without wanting to inhibit the free flow of inspiration too much, I'm aware I may be a bit elevated in some ways. Nothing too extreme though, not like earlier times in my life. An advantage of getting older and more experienced with our conditions, it seems to me.

I know well the friend you are talking about. I remember she has been a very special person to you for a long time. Not so great with the comment after helping when she stayed at your place up north, and can understand you feeling extra motivated from that! Hope you are able to relax well before she arrives too, and that you get on well with her partner too.

Going offline now to prepare for Frasier. Glad to catch up for a little chat with you this morning.

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Great to catch up with you @Mazarita. Enjoy your day xx

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Good morning everyone @Mazarita @outlander @Exoplanet @Zoe7 @CheerBear @Bunniekins @Shaz51 @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @Teej @PeppiPatty and anyone else passing here today. Hoping the night has been restful for all.

Overcast and cool here today so far. Up early coz I'm excited about my visitors arriving this afternoon and have a couple more chores to do to prepare. Last night I set the firepit in hopes of a backyard fire tonight after we get home from dinner at the Japanese restaurant I love, but it looks like it'll probably rain before then so the wood will get wet. Oh well, can't fight nature! So looking forward to seeing them.

Going out with support worker today to psychology ap't by bus probably (unless it's heavy rain) and maybe a good walk somewhere like the beach - again weather permitting. Will be around for a while if anyone wants to chat. Otherwise hoping today starts peacefully for you all and has some joy in it.

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