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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Goodmorning @eth @CheerBear @Bunniekins @Mazarita @Shaz51 It is a sunny day here today with clear blue skies and no wind - gorgeous

I will probably not get outside much though as I have planning to get organised. I really want to get most of it done tody so I don't have much to do tomorrow.

I hope you got back to sleep okay @Mazarita and wake feeling a little more relaxed.

@CheerBear Our fur babies certainly give us a lot of comfort - although Toby gets the most attention I love cuddles with Cat an hearing her purring - heartlifting

@eth I hope the party didn't keep you up too long and you got some sleep

@Shaz51 Great that you are home on a Saturday morning - hope you enjoy your day.

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Good morning @Mazarita @CheerBear @Bunniekins @Shaz51 and anyone else passing here this morning.

@Mazarita It's great to hear you got the all clear on your heart worries. No wonder the tests took their toll on you, they sound like very hard work. Really hoping that your GP can get to the bottom of what's causing your pain. I had chest pain one time and it turned out I'd pulled a muscle on the inside of my ribs, probably with coughing strain. Hope your headache clears early and so does the weather so you can do your shoot this afternoon. I was awake at the times you posted but didn't turn the computer on.

@CheerBear hope your day goes smoothly enough, sounds like you'll be juggling a few balls in the air. Especially hoping that meeting up with your old friend goes really well.

Hi @Bunniekins trust you are still sleeping and also hoping your day goes well.

Hey @Shaz51 you sound busy already. Hope you get some restful time at some stage today and that your arms feel better soon.

My support for the dentist this morning cancelled at short notice, but bro has agreed to take me thank goodness. I really need someone there with me as there are all sorts of people that go to that building, including a methadone clinic. And sometimes the lift doesn't work. Plus dental work often raises PTSD stuff for me. So a few anxieties that will be lessened by having someone there with me. A shebah cab wouldn't work with all that at issue.

Then this afternoon I have support for 3 hours from another sw. Planning to do groceries, go to chemist and nearby vape store for some instructions on using the ecig I bought a couple of months ago. This week some new 'juice' for it arrived that has a low nicotine content so I'm hoping I can swap out with the juice that's already in it that's nicotine free and that it will then be more satisfying and aleviate my almost constant craving for cigarettes. Also hope to have time to work out bus times and routes for travelling to and from the psychologist. My sw that I have during the week has worked out really good sounding ideas for helping me become more independently mobile out and about. She's really good.

Hope today goes well for everyone.

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it feels strange my sister @Zoe7, I had forgotten how much I love staying at home doing little things in the house

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Hi @Shaz51. Hope you enjoy your home morning ❤

Good luck with your planning @Zoe7. Keeping up with everything and cheering you on quietly. Love my smooshy cat. She's very standoffish and can be such a snob, then she snuggles in close and tight and gives me so much love. She's my soul friend 😊❤

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It's great to hear you got the all clear on your heart worries @Mazarita

thinking of you today @eth

not rushing around @eth, just nice and easy , nice to see things done

will be relaxing this afternoon

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yes cats are funny @CheerBear, @Zoe7

I miss my darlings at times xx

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Good luck with the dentist @eth. So good to hear you have support from brother. Hope the outing goes well.

Hugs @Shaz51. Pets can really leave something missing when they're no longer around 😔❤

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Hi to you too @Zoe7. and again to @CheerBear and @Shaz51 3 of you posted at the same time as I was writing my post so Snap! Snap! Snap!

The party did go until around 3 but I managed to sleep through most of it. Took my meds later than usual last night due to having been out so I'm sure that helped. Actually got one 4 hour block of sleep which is unusual and an achievement for me.

Went to an art exhibition where there was a street fair outside the venue. Food stalls and live music. With bro and sil and I handled it with a lot less anxiety than is usual for me in a crowd. I felt quite comfortable in the kind of crowd it was and this felt like a breakthrough for me. I realised I feel much safer in that sort of crowd than I used to when I was in the top end.

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Getting my new teeth today - WOOHOO!!!!

Heading out now so have a productive and peaceful day you all xx

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Exciting @eth. Enjoy your smile! Great to hear you had a bit of a breakthrough yesterday.
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