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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Sending warm wishes from me too @Sophia1 I have found seeing a 'trauma informed' psychologist who is also female very helpful in dealing with my DV history. Maybe someone like that would be good for you too. Plus I did a course called 'Living Beyond Abuse' that went for 8 weeks 1 morning a week at the local Women's Centre - it was incredibly informative and I think I learned how to avoid getting into that situation ever again.

Hoping you get the news you want about the possibility of another surgery. And that the timing of it works for you. Very sorry to hear it's necessary.

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@eth, sounds like a pretty awful experience you had with the sleep study. Hopefully it might be a bit better where I am by now. I haven't had sleep studies done previously, though I've been wondering about this for a while, because I didn't think I would be able to sleep with a mask on, but now think it might be worth a try. The other thing that stopped me in my tracks with pursuing sleep studies is the huge expense of cpap machines. However, checking the state government health site yesterday, I saw that they have a loan scheme, with various conditions. It would still involve a fair bit of expense, as I would need to rent a machine for a two month trial period myself. Also, masks are not covered in the loan scheme. And the scheme is only available to people with fairly severe sleep apnea, and/or certain co-morbidities. A lot of ifs really, and still the likelihood of a fair bit of expense. But I'm thinking it might be worth exploring now anyway.

@outlander, yikes to biting your tongue. Good to hear you are straight onto self care after dreams like that. I avoid certain issues on the forum quite a lot of the time, except when I'm feeling particularly strong. It's important that we avoid making our own mental health worse by being here, I think. Yes, I have a pretty big day planned. But first I'll be getting some more sleep.

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No plans for me today @outlander. Garden is thriving and loving the warmer weather but needing more water to be expected. It was meant to be rainy here today but the sky is clear and the sun is shining. A couple of special visitors to the garden lately - an owl most times at dusk and a kookaburra that stays for a while. Many other birds too but these 2 are more rare. They sit really close too.

Your self-care plans for today sound good.

BRB

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@eth, @outlander, @Sophia1, good to catch up this morning. I need to get some more sleep now. See you next time.

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Sleep well @Mazarita ❤

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Wow your garden sounds lovely. I love the sound of your vistors. My mum gets owls sometimes in her garden. Just smaller ones but im not entirely sure of the breed. They are really cute though.
Oh i love kookaburras! @eth

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Sleep deeply @Mazarita and hope the rest of the day goes according to plan.

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Just saying good morning ALL

and to @@outlander @Mazarita @eth @Sophia1 @Bunniekins @Exoplanet @Faith-and-Hope @CheerBear

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Morning @Appleblossom 💌

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Good morning @Appleblossom @CheerBear @Zoe7 (spotted you all under the support button) hope today is going nicely for you all.

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