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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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That's a great one to keep in mind @Mazarita and I'll try and remember that today. It's peaceful here this morning and nice to be feeling the still of the morning.

So sorry I missed that or missed remembering. It's great that you liked the specialist and were able to see him quickly. Also fab to be bulk billed. It's not right that money should stand in the way of receiving medical care that someone needs. Hoping very much that the tests come back clear of anything serious for you. What you went through sounded really scary.

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Thanks, @CheerBear. Will you be at the hospital today, or waiting at home for news?

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I'm going to go in once I take the kids to school and will wait with parents until they go into pre-op, then I'll wait at home @Mazarita. There is no point in us being there waiting and we're not too far from the hospital so if we want or need to go in we can. Depending on what well one wants and whether someone can watch the kids, the two of us (well one and I) may go in tonight.

The kids had a great visit last night which I'm really glad about. They all enjoyed it and it was good for the kids and parent. They were dressed up after a special day at school and brightened the place up heaps. It's a spin out to see so much energy and vibrancy in some alongside such a lack of it in others.

(Sorry for the edits -typos coming with sleeplessness!)

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Sounds like a good plan for this day, @CheerBear. Again, wishing you and loved ones so much of the best.

I can barely keep my eyes open, so I'm heading back to bed. Love and care to you.

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Thanks @Mazarita for your wishes and support. I really, really appreciate it. Wishing you the best with your appointments and test today. Hope it all goes well (and the coffee is great when you get it). Big hugs ❤

I have some tidying to do before the day gets started so I might log off and start that. Wanted to say a huge thanks to @Teej also in case I don't get a chance to, for your message yesterday that felt like a perfect warm hug. Lots of (good) tears at that one ❤

Hope today has good in it for all

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@CheerBear @Mazarita .... ❤️❤️

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Sending lots of hugs and s to you both @Mazarita and @CheerBear for what you are each going through.

Good morning everyone @Shaz51 @Bunniekins @Faith-and-Hope @Sophia1 @outlander @Exoplanet and anyone else seeing this post - I'm home all day today and looking forward to some chat on here if anyone wants to.

Pretty whacked after my big day yesterday and still rattled from a disturbing dream the night before. It tied in closely to what I was working on with the psychologist yesterday. Had a couple of light bulb moments but not about happy stuff.

Maz I hope your pain diminishes/resolves with no complications. CheerBear I'll be thinking of you and sending warm wishes your way today.

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Morning @eth@Mazarita@Faith-and-Hope@CheerBear@Shaz51@Appleblossom@Exoplanet@Sophia1 @PeppiPatty and everyone 🌼💟🌻💜🌷💙🌸💛🌺

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Hi @outlander how's life going for you? Haven't connected with you for a while.

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Morning @eth
Lifes pretty tough atm but continuing to put one foot in front of the other. F&H had inspired a new art project so im having a look at what ive got here and what i need to get for it.

The past few days sound a little rough for you too. Hugs for the dreams and tough lightbulb moments.
Do you have any plans for today?
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