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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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I am off to get my hair done

and then the food shopping for us and my mum

tried to have a sleep in this morning -- wide awake at 6am -- ohh well

hello @Bunniekins, @Mazarita, @eth, @Appleblossom

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@Shaz51 good morning Shaz51 🙂 cut and coloured?

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thank you @Mazarita

Sorry that I have not written back straight away..

You are probably wondering which post I am referring to laugh..

The one about your sleep hygiene and hygiene in general which did make me smile..

You are so very honest about yourself...

Be proud...

I am still in the throes of writing...deleting....rereading....deleting...not even posting

hence can take simply ages for me to respond...

I too have had major issues with not sleeping over the years...

For the last two years at least have been taking a sleeping tablet.

Had taken a year or so prior to that time when had a sleep debt as explained by my therapist and was suffering fatigue..

I do not like taking sleeping tablets ...have found it the only way to survive through the scenario with "family member"

I have lately felt more agitated...anxious...experienced heart rate changes...not sure if general anxiety as there is much going on still...or if is side effect now from taking sleeping tablets...

So I decided to stop last night...

needless to say I am more anxious today...do not remember if last night was the first night that I stopped or the night before...

not a brilliant idea at all going cold turkey...so am deciding to take half of tablet tonight and then discuss with therapist on monday...

poetry has always appealed to me as has literature....reading...languages...

I am no expert on the subject by any means....

Have read some of William Blake..T S Eliot...Shakespeare...Bob Dylan...then the trail leads to many well known song writers..

I love history as well...language is a major part of history...poetry is another form of language...expression..

What have you discovered on the internet that intrigued you?

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Morning everyone 🙂

I've been up for a couple of hours and it's still too quiet and early to get a move on with things around the house so I thought I'd pop by and say hi and see if anyone else was also up.

I'm listening to a very happy sounding bird on the neighbours roof who is standing tall and proud and chirping out to other birds a few houses away. Such a nice sound 😊

Sending big 💗 to everyone and hoping the day starts off well for all.

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Good morning, @CheerBear. I wonder if you are still around. I love your tall and proud, rooftop bird. It somehow reminds me of you.

The dawn chorus here was especially beautiful this morning. A bright yet gentle ensemble with a variety of blended birdsong, underscored by the distant bass of the ocean, and the closer bass of occasional traffic, all in surround sound.

I stood and listened for a little while longer than usual in my courtyard this morning, as the nature music reached its peak and then slowly started to fade in volume.

It's now that time of morning when the birdsong has almost completely faded away. The birds seem to nap again at this time for a while, before starting their daysong in earnest a bit later.

Like me these days: awake very early, back to bed again for a while after some time with the dawn.

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Hey @Mazarita 😊

I think you would have enjoyed the morning here this morning. So peaceful and still. It looked a little like the dark blue morning image with the tree you have posted a couple of times.

Do you get frustrated with your early starts sometimes? Mine are getting to that point where I need to pay attention to it I think, not that theres much I can do probably. Its been funny having someone else living here who sees and comments on things like my sleep habits.

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@CheerBear, so glad you are here for chat this morning.

I don't really get frustrated with the early morning rising. I love it actually. But that's because I can go back to sleep again. It's different for you, as you rise even earlier than me it seems, and then need to continue with your day. I might find it embarrassing to have guests in the flat to witness the strangeness of my lifestyle. I think of this when there is the rare prospect of such visitors, and frankly avoid having them in most cases. That's also because the flat is too small for visitors really.

I also think of this and tend to avoid it when I receive rare invitations to stay overnight or longer at friends' places. In fact I received one of these on Thursday night from the friend we saw at the poetry event. It's only a couple of very close friends, and my mum, that I feel comfortable enough to do this with.

I can imagine how funny it might be for you to be seen in this way, but I'm imagining it's someone very close, so not so difficult. In some ways it might be helpful to have the reflected view. Is there really nothing that can be done to help with your sleep? Maybe further talk with your medical supports about it? I take an old-style antihistamine every night that my psychiatrist recommended as a better way to go than sleeping meds. It's available over the counter at the chemist. I find it helpful in getting to sleep but without such heavy grogginess that tends to come with sleeping meds.

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Very much understanding how you might find it difficult to have guests and witnesses around @Mazarita, and be a guest somewhere too. I'm definitely a home person and wouldn't like staying somewhere else (aside from the one home we visit). Occassionally we have people over for a night but I've never had someone stay this long.

I think I tried an antihistamine a while ago but without much luck. I'm going to speak to my GP on Friday about it as I'm happy to try something else again now. I'm having the most success I've had with a medication with this new mood stabiliser and part of that I'm sure is because she understands my situation with medication well. I trust her 🙂

Hows your day looking today?

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@CheerBear, it pleases me no end to hear that you are finding the mood stabiliser helpful. I remember when you first arrived on the forum how very nervous you were about seeing a psychiatrist, and about medications. I think it is right to be wary of medications if not really needed and I took five years with my psychiatrist before I first started taking anti-depressants (a long time ago now!). But when they are needed and helpful, they can be a good thing. So good to hear you have such a trusting and helpful relation with your GP.

I have no solid plans for today. But I'd like to start doing some cleaning in the leadup to the flat inspection on Nov 5. I've also been feeling inspired about future video projects again and have some camera footage to look at, and maybe do some editing. It really would be best if I got out of the flat today. Maybe I'll go to the beach for the first time in ages. Even though I'm not walking there at the moment on physio advice, it could be good to just sit and watch the ocean.

What are you thinking of doing with your day?

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I remember that really well @Mazarita. I think it may have been the first reach out thing I did here. I also remember a certain wonderful person replying with gentle encouragement and understanding ❤ You've had such an impact on me Mazarita, in a really positive way and I so appreciate it. I feel happy to finally, after so many years of frustration and wonkiness, be at this place where medication and medical people are helpful.

Ugh for house inspections 😏 I do love the post house inspection sparkle though. That's great to hear that you're feeling a little inspired again. Beach watching is always great too. It's still a little cold for beach trips for us but we're getting close!

My plan today is to finish cleaning for tomorrows inspection. It's definitely already house inspection ready but I take the opportunity to make it seriously sparkle and to clear out and organise things. I remember when I was living in my own home (for the short time I did) how much clutter and mess happened without the need to do a thorough clean every six months. Maybe some garden time later too 🙂
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