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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Your warmth is far from waspy.Wyeth Mending Fences

YAY @Exoplanet - FENCE JUBILATION is a thing!

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Yes @Mazarita it's really good to be getting some quiet time. Not used to being around other people constantly which I have this week. Shared a motel room with M for 3 nights and visitors the next 2. I'll be having an early tv dinner from the freezer. Don't have to go out again til Tuesday when I'll be going with a support worker to my first water tai chi class - quite looking forward to that, the pool is meant to be warmer than the so-called heated pool I went to a few other times a while ago.

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Hi @Appleblossom, nice to be sharing this storm moment with you too. We were going to head out after the storm to visit our friend. But she's rung to say she's in blackout, 1000 homes without power where she is. May go later this evening, or I might bus it to her place after my GP appointment tomorrow. How is life treating you at the moment?

@eth, glad to hear you have some quiet time tomorrow too. I know how important some recovery time can be for both of us after big social experiences, even with family.

Oh dear, it is getting so painfully slow trying to post on this mobile. I will try to persevere but if I drop out at some point, that will be why!

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Hi @Appleblossom @Adge @CheerBear

.......... and bye for now @Mazarita. Time for me to get off the computer for a while. It's nice to be back on the forum again - I missed it while I was away. Haven't worked out how to do it on my phone yet for when I'm travelling. Any tips would be great.

Have a nice night all. See you tomorrow probably.

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@Mazarita I used to love storms ... but it is tricky when they get destructive ...

Take Care up NOrth ...

My son and are well. It is a well deserved rest day after production week.of his opera. It was fun and not as stressful as the show where he did a quick rescue in a lead role.

It was lovely and entertaining. I knew a few of the caste ... They are a bunch of great people for my son to hang out with ..They are taking it to the country in a month.

After the difficulties of early in the year ... it is so good to have a few ticks ... in the bank.

The other business is still not sorted ... endless adjournments ...

We can only do what we can do.

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Bye for now, @eth. You are going just as I've got the use of my desktop again. Storm is still around but not on top of us any more. I much prefer my fingers on a full sized keyboard! Enjoy the evening and catch up again soon.

@Appleblossom, sounds great with your son in the opera, and some good people to hang out with. A good break for him to go out to the country with it soon too. Wonderful that you are feeling the 'ticks' accumulating. I relate to that. For me it's a lot to do with how I am going with basic life things, like staying out of bed during the day, showering, regular washing of clothes and dishes, cleaning, keeping appointments and getting out of the flat. I feel so much better when I'm achieving those things, partly from a much improved sense of accomplishment. Funny how things that most people take for granted feel like the highest achievements for me these days.

There was another good thing that happened today too, which has lifted my 'artistic career' spirit in the wake of recent feelings of failure. I received a message from a video artist, academic and curator in the USA, asking to show one of my videos as part of an exhibition in Amsterdam in December. Chuffed!

Well, I think that's it from me for this long session of forum chat. Haven't responded to earlier posts from others yet, but will before long! One thing before I go though. @Exoplanet, 'fence jubilation' gave me a big laugh. What a fantastic way you have with words, not to mention a great sense of humour! I agree with Apple - fence jubilation is definitely a thing! More from me to you soon.

@everyone, kind wishes to all for an okay or better evening.

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WOW @Mazarita

Amsterdam

Your videos must be very COOL.

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hello @Exoplanet

I can sense your exhilaration...why not ..

you have been to ***** and back to get this done...

a huge release of emotions.....

yeah....I get this...I have been here in a different degree in my life and felt that independent sense of achievement that other s might see as a job done...

you have worked so hard for this...battled obstacles and achieved this end goal...

go for it girl...

you deserve every single bit of "yes I did this"

seriously I am so happy for you....you have achieved a part of me that I did not at your age and yes tears running down face.. thank you for sharing and achieving this for yourself,,,myself...and possibly others to come...

I love it...

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We had hail this afternoon - not too much but lots of rain. It cleared away and it was nice to go out walking afterwards with the streets and paths washed clean.

@Appleblossom - storms can be spectacular.

@Mazarita - amazing news about your video making career is really taking off.

@eth - happy for you that you enjoyed time with your family

Hi @Sophia1 and @Shaz51 hope you’re well

@Bunniekins - it’s always nice when the kids are doing alright.

@Exoplanet -it’s great when things you have been wanting and waiting for finally get done.

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@soul Hey Jellyfish 🙂 how are you going? It is great to have you back again after you being away for awhile.

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