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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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dear @Bunniekins

so many possibilities happening in your life that have hope for improvement...

you all are an inspiration..

you are an incredible mother and I do not say this lightly..

keep on believing in you ...as your children clearly do..

take care

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@Shaz51 Hi Shaz51 how are you going? I am about to do some exercises :P. Wishing you a good day my friend. Love greenpea xx

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Hello Everyone 🙂

@Mazarita @Sophia1 @eth @CheerBear @Bunniekins @outlander @Teej @Appleblossom @Shaz51 @Faith-and-Hope @PeppiPatty @everyone

I'm not able to catch-up on everything that's been going on, so I'm just going to take the thread up from here 😉 I hope everyone is doing ok

I can't tell you how good it feels to have the new fence - I just don't have the words - sublime, up-lifting . . . free. It feels a bit like a cross between having a brand new property & getting my old property back 🙂 It feels like a weight has been lifted & I'm lighter, more able to take a deeper, bigger breathe.

It's soooooo easy to take the puppies for a walk now . . . I just walk out my front door 🙂 We have been walking around the property & criss-crossing all over it, every day 😄 I think this amazingly positive experience has lifted me up in other ways too, yesterday I did the washing, while I was at it I picked up the bloody broom {something I haven't done for many months!}, while I was at that I tidied up a little 😮 Can't complain about that 😄 {Oh, & yes we're all clean :D}

I need to get some mower motivation, but the sky is rumbling at the moment & it actually rained last night! 🙂 I really need to get the battery out of the 'farm car' & put it back on the 2nd solar system, because it's very overcast at the moment & if this sort of weather keeps up {fingers crossed} I'll be running out of power. I had to get the car going so I could move it {I sort of use it to keep the house-yard fence secure where it is able to be opened up} & the fencers could get to the materials I'd put in the front yard.

I was so worried that the thousands I'd spent on wire & steel posts would sit there & rust, becoming a ridiculously expensive, very ugly, garden ornament - well they're all gone now, having become a very practical property boundary fence, like they were intended to be 😄

I'd better finish this rave off here, otherwise I'll bore you all to tears with fence jubilation 🙂

Love to all that need or want it

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@Exoplanet Hi Exoplanet congratulations re new fence lol! I am just so happy that you are so happy 🙂 xx

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Hi @Mazarita spotted you there. Just had a skype with my family that I saw this week. Lovely to see them all again. What have you been up to today?

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Hi @eth, wonder if you are still around. There's a big storm coming through here at the moment and I've turned off the desktop computer and unplugged it and the landline. So on the very slow ancient mobile, just sitting here in my comfy armchair posting to you.

The glass doors to my courtyard are open, it's pretty dark in here, home alone while C is visiting a mate. Listening to the rain and thunder, with more and more lightning happening as the storm moves closer. Just heard a big thunder crack nearby.

It's still warm and humid, a real sub-tropcal storm. But there's a lovely cool rain breeze flowing in from the open door.

Didn't mean to write a long rave about what's happening in the present moment. You instead asked what I've done with my day so far and I haven't really answered that yet. But the storm is the biggest event so far, I'm feeling good and kind of storm-thrilled. So I'm sharing this special moment in the day with you. 🙂

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Lovely to hear from you @Mazarita and in real time! We had a huge electrical storm here last night too, but not the tropical kind like you. I do miss the rains of the top end sometimes. Here it's been cold and drizzly all day - so different.

I've been online most of the day today - had over 120 emails from the week offline. And just catching up here and on fb. Bro and sil have gone away for the week so it's just me and the dog here. Having a quiet glass of white left over from our visitors.

Great to catch you

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@saturnzoon Have you approached some emergency housing people who might know some strings to pull to keep you all together with pets and all.

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@Mazarita Thinking of you and your courtyard in the storm.

@eth Thrilled for your new bub and family time.

Otto DixOtto Dix Sunbathing

Just like the humour in the three generations Sunbathing ... He painted it in 1928! I am not so brave as to get out in sun now ...

@Bunniekins Glad your family is in good place just now.

Hello All Long Ravers ...

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@eth, went and stacked the dishwasher and got that going between posts. C has arrived home too. Wanted to make myself a tuna sandwich as I'm hungry, not eaten lunch yet. But the bread had gone mouldy, dammit. It's that humid time of year now, bread doesn't stay efible for very long!

Wow to 120 emails!!! That sounds like quite a bit of admin! Funny how our technology makes our lives much busier in a way than it used to be before PCs and mobiles.

Glad you are enjoying some quiet time at home, just you and the dog. Good to catch up with you in (slow) real time too.

Just ate a banana for lunch and about to tuck in to a tub of yoghurt. Should stave off the hunger enough until dinnr, lol.

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