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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@Teej, good to see you this morning (and much earlier in the morning). Hope there are some good things in the rest of your day.

Like @Teej, I am finding it hard to respond to earlier posts in this thread. But @Exoplanet, I especially wanted to thank you for the wonderful poem

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@eth good morning eth 🙂 I am just about to do some qi gong. Hoping everything is going well your end. xxx

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I've run out of words for now. Hope today goes well for you all whether it's rest and recuperation or getting things done.

@Mazarita @outlander @Teej @Bunniekins @PeppiPatty

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Ciao, @eth. Hope your day goes well.

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Hey @Exoplanet - I just read your post in the worry room and just wanted to jump on here to reply to your post - so sorry to hear about the tickets and how it's impacting you. Sounds so hard. You are doing really well to be expressing it all here - keep doing that, I'm sitting with you in that. Do reach out to some support one-on-one if you need it - to our Help Centre or Lifeline, if that's something that works for you.

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Hi @eth @Teej @Mazarita @Bunniekins @CheerBear @outlander @Exoplanet ..... My tech is still not working properly with the Sane site. I don’t know if anyone else is having trouble too, so sorry if I have missed anyone ..... Thanks for the call-outs. I am around and reading, just can’t Like, and have to type all names in in full .....

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so sorry to read of such a loss of your beautiful horse at a traumatic period of your life...

@eth

sorry also that I have not written to you for quite some time..

life has not settled yet...


"family member" concerning me greatly....I am telling myself that there is nothing that I can do personally to help...beyond a mother's help...

loving time in back garden of new place....is so tiny in comparison to 5 acres...neighbour spoke to me the other day and said gosh you have a large back garden laugh!!

have been busy planting cuttings in pots and raised garden beds...weeding and watering...back not happy...mind a tad happier...

weigh up the odds...

going with keeping mind happier

as in ugent need of nurturing...

your life is starting to take shape in your new journey....wishing you some moments of calm where you can sense that the changes are helping...

love Sophia xxxx

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hello @outlander

sorry to you also...I have not been able to keep up with your ongoing health issues...

my goodness...enough is enough isn't it...

bruising from the needle sounds as though the nurse was not the best at taking blood..

I have experienced that too where it is very painful...

should not feel it at all...when someone knows what they are doing...

do not feel embarrassed about fainting...

I always tell them up front...I do not like needles...

so often they get me to lay down on the bed...

remember my embarrassing incident at the dentists?

you might not....takes the cake I think

next tuesday your appointment...usually once they receive the resulst if urgent they will ring you in advance and ask you to come in earlier...

so chat away on here to all of your friends....

you have many dear outlander xxx

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hello @Faith-and-Hope and everyone

@Sophia1
yes i agree, enough is enough. its getting to hard to handle. the nurse was great it was my fault for the bruising, i went out and my arm slipped and the needle was still there at that point. i dont like needles at all, i usually just feel abit sick when it gets done but can walk out within a few minutes but this time i had the full works felt like my head was going to explode before i passed out. they were very good about it at least and i apologised- more than once.
hmm im not sure i remember your dental incidents? you might have to tell me again...

yep next tuesday is my appointment then the week after ive got the dentist as well which involves more needles 😞

How are you going?

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Oh that sounds so very painful ...

@outlander

It is still not your fault though..

the fact that you experienced nausea and fainted is a physical reaction out of your control...

whether or not brought on by anxiety...still out of your control...

remember what you say to all of us..

be gentle with yourself...

the dentist thing was pulling out a tooth that had cracked down the centre....telling me at the same time had never seen anything like it! whilst I was feeling my body being lifted as he continued to yank what i was later told tooth with double roots!

he was so busy marvelling at having never seen anything like it before...that when I stood up...the whole room moved along with the floor beneath me..

I was gently escorted into the waiting room...checked on after he had finished with next patient...still looking like I had been whitewashed so gently escorted back (both times by two people) into dentist chair again so that I could lay down...

back to lunchroom then head shoved between my legs in between being handed water to sip on...

about two hours later after telephoning husband who had to bring friend to drive my car ...went home...

now that was embarrassing...

then again you would probably say to me "be gentle with yourself" laugh!!

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