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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@Mazarita having a bit of a difficult time in the here and now as it's now been nearly 20 hours since my adult child indicated they were in labour. No news and they've put out a blanket fb message saying for no-one to contact them for at least 3 days. I feel sure they are with their baby by now but can't help moments of concern that things might not be ok.

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@eth, just caught me before going to bed. I am so relieved at your reply, as I was really very worried I might have hurt you. It's been a weird day and I feel like I have bared my whole life with those big long posts on the other thread, and not sure why I did it or what purpose it really serves.

More importantly, I am so sorry you are feeling concerned for your grandchild and adult child. I think it's really very wrong of your child and their partner to be so inconsiderate of the anticipation and concern you might have about the birth, as the child's grandmother. Hoping you hear something sooner than three days from now, and that the news is all wonderful.

Goodnight for now, dear friend.

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Night Maz

@Mazarita

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Morning everyone

@eth I woke up this morning and one of my first thoughts was whether you'd had any news about your grandbaby. I'm sorry you're sitting with such a big unknown. I understand the importance of allowing people space and privacy during times like this, but wouldn't do it myself knowing how much important people in my life would be concerned and have difficulty with the unknown because of their love for me. Thinking of you and hoping you have some relieving and exciting news soon.

@Mazarita big hugs and love to you. I hope your night last night was OK enough.

Hi to everyone who might pass through. Hoping Sunday has started well for all.

❤

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A wish for Mazy ❤️

Hello Everyone 🙂

When I found this I immediately thought of Mazy @Mazarita But I'd like everyone here to have a wish Mine would be the same one I make on the first star I see every night, to have a female human friend in real life 🙂

Love to all the need or want it

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Hi all Just heard baby is still on their way and all are well. So nice to hear something at last. Heading out now. BBL Love to all xx

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Hello @eth, @Mazarita, @Exoplanet, @CheerBear, @Faith-and-Hope

I have a appt with the endocrinologist tomorrow

I hope your day was ok today , sending you all hugs

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Wishing you the best with your appointment tomorrow @Shaz51. How are you feeling about it? Hope it goes well for you ❤

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thank you @CheerBear xoxo I am wondering what he is going to say and what the blood test results will be xx

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It can be scary and unnerving waiting for test results @Shaz51. Everything crossed for you. Big hugs ❤ xxx
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