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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Crochet seems to help you a lot, @CheerBear, and it's so wonderful that you have helped @outlander find good feelings with it too. The work you are both doing is lovely. I find knitting a balancing and mindful activity too, though I haven't done any more on my new project since I started it on Friday. I think I might try to do some of that today. The project is a knit-bomb, with trees to be wrapped in knitting, for a mental health art day that is coming up here. Really glad to have a good purpose to get me going on it again and I've never been involved in knit-bombing before, and just think it's cool!

Aside from that, I'm hoping to have a fairly chill day, hopefully with a visit to see my close friend. About the friend I thought I'd lost: we haven't made any plans to see each other more yet, but it's likely to happen over time as we are friends of a closer friend to each of us. Even if we don't end up having a full-blown friendship ever again, the karma between us is clear now and we can at least be friendly acquaintances. We talked a lot yesterday and she even gave me a little gift, which was so sweet.

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That is SO cool about your knitting project @Mazarita. Funny thing - I had asked my MH worker to help me find the local yarn bombers that I know are around, as I really want to get involved but find it hard to connect with them for lots of reasons, the main one being that social media isn't something I can do (I think we've spoken about my want to get involved in yarn bombing one early morning before). She came back telling me it wasn't the most legal thing I could be doing and wasn't very helpful with it. It is legal particularly when they're projects that are organised and asked for and I felt a bit frustrated at her response to it. So late last week I found another way to try and connect and will keep trying with that as it's reeeeally something I want to do. So cool to hear you're getting involved also. I can imagine what the theme may be too as they have similar days/projects this time of the year for that reason here too 🙂 Super cool and fun Maz!

That's really great with your friend. Imagining it may feel relieving in a way. I hope you enjoy other friend today. Loved the bird story and picture you shared the other day 😊

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I didn't remember you talking about yarn-bombing, @CheerBear. So cool that you have found another way to possibly connect with that. There was talk on Friday at the mental health centre I go to about how it is illegal. But this one is on the grounds of a hospital and only the trees there (and probably the light poles) will be yarn-bombed. So pretty safe with this one. But I tend to think that any creative project in public places in cities enhances the community's lives. I like graffiti too, much more interesting and human to look at than a blank wall.

It is very relieving to have friendly contact with my person again. I really brood over broken relationships with people, even if I don't know them that well, they haunt me. There's another one that's still haunting me, though it happened a few months ago now. I'm probably going to see her again at some point as we frequent some of the same spaces. I'm hoping we can clear the karma there too at some stage. Will be very nervous seeing her again too though!

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I agree with you with street art enhancing community @Mazarita. I think it's a grey area as it's not permanent, though there is potential for it to be an illegal activity. From what I understand, it's up to the council and the way they view it. I'm fortunate to live somewhere where it seems it's embraced. The project you're involved with sounds fab 😊❤

I can understand those uncomfortable feelings involving relationships that have ruptured and the anxiety that may come if theres potential for you to be coming in to contact with those involved again. It's great when it works out well to address the tension some way.

All of a sudden the morning is full of the sounds of the birds waking up. So nice but all I can think is how cold they'd be this morning! It was forecast to snow not too far from here yesterday (not sure if it did though). We had a hint of warm weather and it's like I instantly forgot how cold it can be here!

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When I used to live down south (for decades), I found the winters so hard, @CheerBear. I used to think that, if only it snowed, it would be more bearable because of the wonderment of that. Stay rugged up today. Sounds like a very good day for crochet.

Well, it's light here now, which I am taking as my cue to return to bed. Naughty me being up since about 3am when I'm trying to fix my sleep patterns. But it's been great being here, and always good chatting with you at this quiet, clear-minded time. Until next time, hugs and love your way.

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So good to catch you this morning @Mazarita. Hearing of your knitting project and what it involves has given me a huge smile this morning 😊

I'm going to enjoy the quiet here and try and pick apart a pattern I would love to have but don't want to buy. I'll set myself a challenge to work it out without instructions (and probably fail but it will be fun trying).

Hope you sleep well ❤

Morning best wishes to all who may come by too. Hope your Sunday starts well ☕💗😊

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@Mazarita Hi Mazzy thanks for calling me a 'mighty mum' that sounds great :D!.the clothes are some leggings to go with with my summer tops. a dark grey pair, a navy blue pair and a black pair. Really that you had a great night like the old days last night 🙂 wish I could but I know I am better staying asleep and having a full 10 hours.

Have a wonderful day Mazzy. Love gp xxxx

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Wishing @Mazarita@eth@CheerBear@PeppiPatty@outlander@Exoplanet and all a wonderful Sunday. Love gp xxx

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Morning @Bunniekins 😊 Hope you have a sunny Sunday

And a hi to @TheVorticon who I noticed was about earlier. Hope your Sunday is OK enough also 🙂

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Hi @CheerBear 🙂
Hi to everyone else 🙂
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