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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Sounds like a nice day ahead for you @eth. I often haven't even heard of some of your cooking words and food but that sounds yum! Great about your sweet peas 😊

I have a little greenhouse and we planted some seeds in trays for it recently after putting beds in the vegetable garden. I have just watered them and found so many have started to come up. It's a bit exciting! I'd definitely be in the garden today if I didn't have other things on.

Better run. Hope there's plenty of good in your day 🙂

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Margherita Malaria Mazy @Mazarita
Lots of love to you, sorry you had a raggedy nights sleep but I still think your slowly but steadily improving Home feels quite good, it kind of feels the same - it always feels like it wasn't real, I didn't really go . . . but I know I did & that's just me 🙂 I'm actually pretty impressed that my sleep pattern seems to have slotted back into place without any hic-ups, maybe a little later, but nothing dramatic 🙂 Yep, the netting is finished & the little dog can't get out anymore 🙂 🙂 🙂 The boundary fence should be getting done in October, I have that all arranged too 😄 {I'm so looking forward to having a real gate! 🙂 } I've got my old obsession back, searching google for new camp spots 🙂 I've got 2 spots up my sleeve now, there's the one from last year that was private & when I went there, I was the only one 🙂 Might return to that one next? But my longing for new 'wake ups' has been renewed, so I'll let myself enjoy dreaming on google as well 🙂 Good luck getting some housework done & a pat on the back for the housework you've achieved 🙂 Glad you got out for that walk & yee haa on the $5 bargain : Congratulations on the future screenings of your video, I think it's perfect timing to be doing some written & visual material for those things to happen ❤️

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@Shaz51
Sorry to hear your having sleep challenges, I have very little doubt that is has to do with the stress of everything that's going on at the moment. Glad to hear your Mum is improving to the bossy stage 🙂 . . . always a good sign 🙂 Another visit to hospital, where she is well looked after, might not be the worst thing. One step at a time, with all the things to do, at a pace that you can manage with the phyical problems. You never need to be sorry my friend Sending lots of love

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From little things, big things grow 🙂

Hello @eth & @CheerBear

Things grow so much better with the support of roots in all directions, it takes a lot for just one little stem, particularly once it has branches & leaves. Your doing great, your growing straight & tall, & you will blossom beautifully when the season is right for you

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Beautiful words thankyou @Exoplanet Hope today is going well for you so far.

Good morning to you too @Teej xx

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Hi to you too @Sans911.

@CheerBear gremolata is parsley, lemon rind and garlic (raw).

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@Exoplanet thank you for your lovely post. ❤ to you.

Yum @eth! That's not what I was thinking it would be. Sounds good 🙂 Love the colours in your photo.

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Morning @CheerBear, @eth, @Exoplanet, @Mazarita and whoever else is around. Just dropping by to say hi and that I’ve loved reading all your last adventures.

I really loved your your camping trip @Exoplanet. 💜

Im having a really flat teary day today so won’t say too much because there are so many positives here.

I have ave also been growing some veggies and herbs from seeds. I’ve had mixed results. None of the basil grew but the seeds were out of date. Lots of lettuce and bok choy, some sage, coriander and dill. All looking a little sad for themselves but surviving. They were doing very well on my windowsill until a young magpie flew in and got trapped at my kitchen window and I had to catch it and release it outside. In the process it knocked off my container with the emerging seedlings and they crashed everywhere. I’ve managed to salvage most and they are outside now as it’s a bit warmer.

Wishing everyone a kind and gentle day. 💜🤗

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Afternoon @Teej @Mazarita @CheerBear @eth @Exoplanet @Shaz51@outlander and all

@CheerBear it sounds lovely to have a drink to watch the sunset, i would love to be able to do that

@Mazarita It's beautiful to hear the birds in the mornings, we have a tree out the front with the birds calling each other, its like nature in your own backyard

@Exoplanet Your picture and words are an inspiration exoplanet and my heart has a warm feeling watching it, it rings so true for us i think to.

@ethyour flowers are beautiful.

@Teej sending hugs your way

That's the big thing I love about our forums here, everyone is going through all sorts of difficult situations, that sometimes we can't see positive impacts in our lives, but here we get so much encouragement and lovely pictures, and the little things we do or say can make a difference, reading all the posts, mother nature is all around us as you have all shown just little things that have happened on here.

I am so very grateful to everyone on here, how much it can change the way i feel sometimes in my deepest hard moment

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@Teej 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
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