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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Good morning @Mazarita, @eth, @Former-Member and others visiting 🙂

I felt everything with you in your rant re housing yesterday Mazarita. I feel it too, so much. Housing stuff has always bothered me and I knew it was bad, but having this other inside look, thanks to the big bang, bad now hurts my soul. Society in general, hurts my soul. I guess that's where appreciating the little things helps to get me through too though 😞 🐦🕊🌼🌸🌈

3 monthly inspections is really sucky, and I don't think even allowed here. Sorry to hear you have that too often.

Thanks for your ongoing encouragement re my situation, Mazarita. It really has made a huge difference and I so appreciate having 'met' you.

Hope today is good for you (all) 💗

(Ps - sorry re the formatting of my post yesterday morning. My tablet hates the forum and jumbles posts often. Usually I edit it after, but I didn't think you'd mind)

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Good morning, @CheerBear, @eth, @Former-Member and everyone,

Eth, I crashed fast at my last post a few hours ago. It was good chatting. Hope you got some sleep since then too. ox

CB, society in general hurts my soul too. So helpful a medicine is the joy of those simple, small things you mentioned. I am very glad to have met you too, my friend. No worries with the formatting. Hope today holds smiles, giggles and laughs, for you and the fishes. ox

Niqua, how are things with you these past days? Thinking of you and streaming love. ox

Happy vibes to all for today.

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Hey @Mazarita

I crashed fast too! No great surprise tho'. Got another 2 hrs of deep sleep. How about you?

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Good Morning Mazy @Mazarita, Claire @outlander, @Faith-and-Hope, @Shaz51, Sis @Former-Member, @CheerBear, @Owlunar, @eth, @Former-Member, @Silenus

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Good morning @Former-Member .... 🤗💕

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Good evening, @Faith-and-Hope, @Former-Member, @eth, @CheerBear, @Former-Member, @Shaz51 and everyone, hope you have had some good moments during the daylight hours.

I've had a relaxation day, including sleeping until about 3pm (after being up all night), dressing, making the bed, doing some low key video stuff, watching a show on TV I've got into. The quality of today, feeling more relaxed and just letting myself go with the flow, is different to those days when I am so dark and heavy I can't move. Today has held much more healing feelings. I still worried about things today - I never seem to be free of worry - but not so heavily as on other days. Grateful for the feelings of relief.

I wonder how the day has been for others here. Sending hugs for any painful feelings that may have arisen and hopes for an enjoyable Sunday evening for us all.

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Hi @Mazarita nice to hear you've caught up on relaxing time and sleep today.

Quiet one here with bro and sil away for the week. Spent a good amount of the day researching Greek myths to find an archetype to inspire a monologue for this week's lesson in the story writing course. Still haven't really settled on one tho' I do like Orpheus's tale. Any suggestions welcome if you're into that stuff. Did washing, raking and gardening in between times. Then spent at least 2 hours on the phone sharing writing and just raving with someone I've known since grade 2. We reunited only a few months ago and still have a special relationship that neither of us has with our blood sisters. That was great.

Looking forward to the same sort of things tomorrow as have no committments. Hoping to knock over some writing and also start the Office lessons I have a free one month trial of. I've had it for 12 days and still haven't started. If I can get on top of at least using Word to do my stories it will be really good. Easy to send copy to people etc.

How is your day looking tomorrow?

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Hi @eth, it's been quite some time since I've thought about greek myths. Orpheus is a good one, though I find the fatalistic tragedy aspect depressing (a victim of his own weakness in yearning for his love, who he also condemns through this same weakness). Are there any that have happier endings? It probably mainly depends what you are personally exploring in your writing. I would associate you with the goddess Artemis.

Sounds like you had a relaxedly productive day, the best kind really. Awesome you connected with your old friend and had such a fantastic rave. Makes me happy that you have good connections in the really real.

With Word, it's a brilliant program. I used to be proficient with it when I worked in legal word processing. But the program has been upgraded and redesigned a lot since that time so I don't know how I would go with the modern version. When I do writing these days, I use that most basic program on the PC - Notepad. It is text-only, so any text program can read it. Works just as well but you don't get fancy formatting, it is just plain text.

Tomorrow I will try to get out on the beach. I'd want to do some washing. May visit friend tomorrow. There's a phone call I need to make about an event C and I are going to in a couple of weeks time (a night time forest walk). Shower day tomorrow too. I've been doing well with them over the past week, about once every two to three days. Feels much better. Really hoping to keep it up.

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Thanks for the suggestion @Mazarita I'll check her out in the morning. I guess the happy endings don't fit in the autobiographical type of writing I'm doing. Much easier for me to base characters in tragedy - feels like most of my life has been.

Planning an early night tonight, maybe a bit of telly and offline time. And thanks for the reminder about notepad too. I've been slack about doing things this way as I'm old school in many ways and enjoy the scribing - but it's much harder to share, really not the way of now. I did medical and legal word processing too but it's a very long time ago. But I figure that should make it easier when I do get to it.

Good for you keeping up your shower routine. I'm top and tailing most days.

A night time forest walk sounds lovely.

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I do like creating things that have happy feelings sometimes, @eth. But a lot of my creative work with video delves into darker terrain. I guess it makes sense for both of us, because of past experiences. I didn't remember that you did word processing too, another life experience we seem to have had in common. To this day, I still like typing. It was really only the social environment and pressure of the workplace that made it impossible for me to keep up, crashing out badly again and again. My work history is a big painful memory mostly. But those word processing skills are a bit like riding a bicycle too, and really good to have.

I'd like to try for an early night too, hoping for another solid sleep like I had a couple of nights ago. Maybe catch you overnight if we happen to awake at the same time, or just catch up next time we're around together. Enjoy the telly and offline time. I may be doing the same.

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