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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Yeah she’s got one, but doesn’t use it @outlander she’s not really into getting her hair brushed even if gentle and prefers her hair out. Like to help out a lot. I remember having a disagreement once about the vacuum. I said I can do it Bub but no she insisted on doing it lol.

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Good morning all.

@Mazarita hope all goes well with the tradie coming. And that you're having an otherwise better day today.

@Sophia1 thanks a lot for your thoughtful message. I am feeling a bit better today thanks. Hope you are too.

Hi @outlander @CheerBear @Former-Member @Exoplanet @The-red-centaur @Appleblossom and anyone else around at the moment.

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Hi @eth 🙂

The tradie should be here any minute now, if he's on time. Hope you might be feeling a bit less stressed today. @Sophia1 is right. Tears can be a relief and a good letting go. What's happening for you today. Bearing in mind I may drop out at any time the tradie turns up. 😛

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oh thats really cute @Former-Member
i remember my siblings do that too growing up and trying to 'help'

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depression and lack of motivation is hard @Mazarita
sorry to hear of your weird thing that happened, hope its not discouraged you to much to try again.
im not sure if your on facebook or even gumtree but sometimes people are giving away free knitting materials. pity i didnt know you, my aunt is trying to get rid of a huge box of knitting things. she said last she counted there were 3 or 4 sets of needles and over 30 types/colours of wool!
sometimes if your on there yuo can put up on some sites asking if anyones selling any cheap or free too. just a thought anyway

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@outlander, @eth, just got a text that tradie is on his way here. From where, I don't know, lol. Could be a few minutes or an hour, he didn't tell me, lol.

Usually when I knit, outlander, it's to a pattern that requires particular sized needles and yarn. Bit hit or m7ss on Gumtree. If I was a better knitter, I could be more creative and design my own around the materials available. But worth think7ng about other sources, thanks.

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Hey @Mazarita yes feeling a bit better today. Seems like you are too.

So far I've rewritten and updated my bio and support needs on the HireUp page which involved going back through a couple of folders of info from the pre-planning phase with NDIS. I think they're pretty comprehensive now.

Also rang my coordinator of supports but had to leave a message. No reply yet. Need to reschedule a meeting she cancelled last wednesday.

Need responses on both the above before I can book any support workers. Still frustrated about that (a month now since my NDIS plan was approved).

Taking care of some more admin type stuff over the afternoon.

Really should get on the ex bike - didn't do it at all last week as a really heavy piece of 4x4 timber fell on my foot and I thought it might be broken - seems to have recovered surprisingly quickly, probably thanks to arnica cream as soon as it happened, and the whole rest, ice, elevation thing for a whole day.

Sounds like you have a nice afternoon planned for after the tradie's been. I hope you get there.

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Sorry to hear about your foot, @eth. Great that self care has been so healing. Sounds like you have done very good things for ndis today. Maybe it might be worth thinking of this admin phase as the first step in the ndis recovery process. Having to manage more of that on your own is a challenge in itself, and will be developing skills for the future.

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@eth Yes RICE can be surprisingly effective.

@Mazarita Its noce to be able to manage the odd early one when needed. I had to with plumber. Hope the tradie fixes it all and leaves it tidy.

@Former-Member Sounds like you have a lot sorted with your daughter.

@Exoplanet So glad that your fence saga is paying off ... it being expensive enough. We do what we can for family ... and your animals are family.

My son has a mother and girl friend who make sure he gets out into the bush ..lol

@Sophia1

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Always does, making the bed is a mission at times says she wants to help, but just makes it worse lol, ends up being a game @outlander

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