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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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The local fence contractor came yesterday & I'm still daring to feel very positive about it! I showed him the local fence material shops quote on the materials I still need to get & he took a thousand dollars off of it!!! He does need to bring his tractor over & clear the line up, but there's already a thousand dollars I can put into that 🙂 He also mentioned he'd hope he could get to it before Christmas, . . . so it won't happen too soon - but I think this is the one . . . he could have said nothing about the materials & charged extra for the clearing.

I'm off to the shops today, refilling the cupboards {particularly the most important pet one! :D}. I'll grab some more netting clips while I'm at it, as I've been using them pretty freely 😉 My little dog is already not going outside the fence very often & considering I've only done the front half of the fence, meaning he still has all the back half that he could go through . . . I'm pretty chuffed about that 😄 Yesterday he was whining at the front fence because he couldn't get out! 🙂 😄 ! & I've gone down the driveway a couple of times now without him following, . . . it was just the best sight ever to see him impatiently waiting on the inside of the houseyard fence when I returned 😄 😄 😄

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Going to my friend's place when the tradesman arrives, @outlander. He'll be working here all day. I'm not coming home until late afternoon, so no walk on the beach today, @Exoplanet. But I might go for a little walk in the nature reserve near my friends place at some time during the day. Say hello to the ducks and other wildlife. 🙂

Hugs for it all, @outlander. And hugs just because, @Exoplanet.

Doh, this message has taken about 10 minutes to write and post on this old mobile, lol.

Good to see you, @CheerBear, @Former-Member. 🙂

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sounds like a chilled sort of day. is your little girl at school today?
@Former-Member

thank you @CheerBear im glad your little is taking the break well and of course they are famous 😉 im sure theyll have many tales to tell this afternoon. hoping theres some good moments for you today too.. are you at the crafty thingy group today?

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thats great @Exoplanet looks like your fencing is about to get underway pretty soon. aw thats cute with your dogs. at least they arent running away! its cute watching them trying to be very patient lol.

@Mazarita i hope you have a great time at your freinds house today. a walk in the nature reserve sounds lovley though, maybe your friend would like to go with you too... ?

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No group today @outlander. I won't be able to go this week as it's when middle is booked to see the ortho but thats OK. I'm thinking of having a go at making a crochet dog because it has felting as part of it and I haven't played with that one for a while. Have you been up to anything arty or crafty lately?

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thats ok @CheerBear there will be other weeks to go. oh i seen something on facebook i wonder if ican find it. they make look alike animals made from foam, felt and cotton wool. its heaps clever i think it would be something you would like.
no, no arts or crafts here lately. havent really felt up to it as much as what i normally would

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Oooh looking forward to seeing it if you find it @outlander ☺ I'm heading off hunting for a dog nose and some eyes for this maybe creature. Hope today's OK for you 💗

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@outlander, @CheerBear, still waiting for aircon guy. He texted and may not even be here before midday now. No Tv or computer to occupy me as they are unplugged and furniture moved for access. Just this creaky old mobile and meditation, lol.

CB, so cool middle might even be able to enjoy the fame of injury at school. Good to hear of more craft projects on the burner too.

I haven't been making videos for about 6 or 7 weeks now. An unusually long break, just haven't had the energy for it. But yesterday a collaborator wrote to me wanting to do a new project. So something is at least starting to move forward again, even if only in concept at this stage.

Hope you can find some inspiration for creative stuff soon too, @outlander.

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good morning all

@Exoplanet @eth @Mazarita@CheerBear@outlander@Former-Member

fencing scenario sounds much better....I think that you have someone who will do the right thing by you now...still keep on top of it....

love that your dog sits waiting at the front face for mummy to come back....totally unaware that the back is an avenue for escape...

reminded me of how we all are sometimes in our self judgement...only see what is directly in front of us...not at the sides or in the background....

eth...you are perhaps letting go of the reins a little.....the tears that are flowing need releasing....your body letting you know that you are safe to let go and just be you...you have achieved your goals....now is time to rest a little for the next part of your journey...

all very easy for me to sound as though I have all of the answers all of the time...I am experiencing the very same in my rehabilitation....I am expecting far too much from myself....pushing myself too hard...having to slow down my pace...listen and notice my pain....yes cry...I did not think that I had any tears left....when I do this I find that the next day I have more energy....

change is such a beast for us who try so hard in life to get along with ourselves...

it is so very good for us though...

you are doing so very well ...even though you do not think so just now...it is all good to notice where you are...

big hug eth xxxx

sorry everybody else I have run out of steam....

big hug for all of you...

remember to be gentle with yourself...perhaps we can all work on this together today....think of all of the energy that we will create...

take care

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id been wondering about your videos, im glad you have some other interest, its abit easier when your doing it for someone else as well. kinda like a motivating goal.
lol, you dont realise how much we rely on things until we cant use them isnt it! @Mazarita
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